Good Openers (aka Pick up lines)

[sera300]

Men are only need to follow up with a call when they have a females number. No notepad required! Unless you are like one of my friends; he dates so many women per week; he has to keep notes on who is who--absolutely serious here. He is a serial dater.

[constantlylearning]

Seriously, this is like grad school or something all the details you know.......

[sera300]

Originally Posted by constantlylearning

Seriously, this is like grad school or something all the details you know.......

No. I have male friends, just friends, who tell me about life. Some are odd...

[constantlylearning]

Odd, I am definitely not.....................this has gone from bad to worse.

[sera300]

Originally Posted by constantlylearning

Odd, I am definitely not.....................this has gone from bad to worse.

My friends can be odd in what they tell me! Especially since I am a female; however, they are open & honest. I listen, listen to their pointers, and frankly their mistakes!

No, did not intend you were odd...just you don't need pickup lines with women. Men don't they just feel they must to get our attention! As a man I am sure you can get a females attention without the lines. In fact they are even fine when younger but are corny when older!

[constantlylearning]

Never much for the lines.........smiles yes, suddle glances yes..LOL

[goof'schik]

Sera isn't it funny what guys will tell a female they are friends with. I have heard some wild stories, some of which I have just gotten up in the middle of and let them finish with JUST the guys.
Yet if we all think about it what is internet dating? It's "chatting" with someone who you think you may have an interest based on a brief description they write about themselves. You "chat" and then maybe exchange a phone number (a pre pay cell phone is good for this) and then meet them face to face in hopefully a very public place.
So where does a pick up line fall in, I guess it's that description that they wrote about themselves. And eye contact, they do say that if you post a picture you'll get more contacts.
And with cell phones how do you not have someones number, and the advantage is it's easier to delete a phone number out of a cell phone than to erase or scratch it out of your phone book.

[constantlylearning]

What exactly is "chatting"??? You mean chatting on the phone?? Or a forum
like this is considered "chatting?" I would bet that really and truly not many
people actually meet over the internet. I really don't know how that would
actually work. It is probably good to sell subscriptions and such but I would
find it hard to believe that a great deal of meeting and phone calls actually
transpire. Of course, I do not have any first hand knowledge other than
posting on this forums or "chatting" on this forum.

[goof'schik]

Yes CL, by "chatting" I mean emailing or instant messaging. I am not one for meeting over the internet either, but I have several friends, both males and females, that have met that way. There are so many websites you can go to, open to any and all dating ones, ones for dating in your religious faith, ones for a special interest (horses, cat lovers, dog lovers) it's almost like a friend has set you up knowing you have similar interests. I have friends who have had awful first dates, I think I've mentioned the one where she was barely able to say hi before the guy had his tongue down her throat. Yet they are still out there looking.

[madeye]

Originally Posted by sera300

Okay CL & Madeye (you are back!). Here it is; we women do not need pick up lines if a man can speak intelligently to us, smile, be polite, and have a bit of humor. We are very receptive to those guys! The lines? Destroys the man.

If a man is interested ask for my number and call. Talk to me and it should be clear why I choose to go out; he does not have to make his case just have a strong sense of self.

And its always great to be back

Now I must clearify some things for the ladies on giving guys "pickup" advice.

The problem is not that guys are to fake or dumb to simply "be themselves" or "smile, say hi, and be polite" the problem is a vast majority of guys are not that socially equiped. Your advice is so simple and straight forward that the average guy will not find the courage to put himself out in the open for such potential rejection odds. We can save the list of reasonable and unreasonable ideas that men have about approaching an attractive women.

The advice as logically sound it may be is fundementally flawed. The average person is not capable of walking up to a stranger and say hi without creating 3 instant reactions: "what are you trying to sell me", "what religion or school athletics need donations", and last but far from least "this person wants to fuck me"

This is why internet dating is popular now.

So the most practical way to approach a stranger is by being very nuetral, casual, and non aggressive. There are ways to start a conversation where the aproacher has the comfort of genuinely starting a pleasent chat and in a fun agenda-less way and to where the aproachee never feels pressured or un-comfortable with the interaction.

Its not a pick-up line, its a strategy and for most guys who are not gifted with imense social skills, a strategy is the only way to successfully approach strangers in a public place. Saying "hi" to a stranger has essentially and sadly become a social "no-no" either it does not work or people are to afraid to try the results are the same: a bunch of people staring across a room wondering how to talk to each other.