Nice guys finish last? Myth of fact?

[ducktales]

What do you all think? Are girls attracted to nice guys?

I don't think girls are attracted to nice guys that are push-overs and lack confidence. I think that nice guys don't have to be push overs, they can still have a lot of self-confidence and still be nice(respectful and sensitive).

I think I've been classified as a nice guy, a "sweetheart" by a lot of girls, but I'd think most will tell you I'm not lacking in self-confidence. I will start talking to anyone.

I think another big thing is humor. If you can make a girl laugh you are in, IMO. If you've got a great sense of humor, use it to your advantage.

Nice guys can be funny and confident, they don't have to be shy and boring.

---Opinions of a classified nice guy.

What are everyone else's thoughts

[EvilEvilKitten]

Nice does NOT mean weak - never confuse the two.

Just smile at her antics and quietly demand that if she wants you, she'll have to step up to get you.

Nice guys are the BEST guys!

[constantlylearning]

I agree with EEK. Being a good/nice person doesn't mean you are a pushover
or lack any redeeming quality simply because you are kind. To be geninuely
nice and considerate toward another should rather be viewed as an asset
and not a liability. Can there ever really be too many "nice" people. It is humorous
that in certain parts of the world "niceness" is construed in many different ways.
To greet a person with a geninue "Hello", "How Are You" is very common where
I am from but as I travel I notice that it isn't as commonplace in other locations.

[Gorgeous Mistake]

One word

Agreed.

[Mr. Saint]

Yea, nice guys don’t always finish last. If they are complete push over then they might. I think being nice to people you like is important. Women like nice, respectful men as long as they are not wimps.

[wet_suit_one]

Someone really should write a step by step manual on how to be nice guy and get the girl.

Quite honestly, it's just stupid that no one has written this book.

There's a goldmine there.

Sadly, I do not possess the knowledge of how to do it, so I can't write it. What a joke.

Sigh...

[arutha]

As EEK said, it is said nice guys finish last because nice is so often related to wussy and/or cowardly. Yes, you can be nice, but you can also be too nice and put the girl off. Doing things like complimenting her too much or buying her lots of things. You also need to know that not making a move on her doesn't make you 'nice', it makes you a friend. If you are nice, you still need to be confident and make a move on her, this is not a bad thing despite the common complaint about guys coming on too hard.

At the other end of the scale, the jerk will attract young women who are seeking excitement and a thrill, but won't be able to have happy relationships. What is really needed is a balance between nice and jerk.

[EvilEvilKitten]

Wet suit one - I did write it: The Altar Chase available here www.lulu.com along with others designed to clarify the various gender situations.

[lustforlove]

Yeah, i have to say i am far more attracted to guys with really good self confidance and charisma, but the thing is i think the mjority of guys like that can be bad, you just have to look hard for a nice one, i prefer nice guys with confidance anyday.

[sarah_rsl]

I've heard this question asked before, I think it's a popular one with guys that don't pull a girl they fancy. There's an element of self delusion to it. The heartless bitch just couldn't see the real guy and how he was going to love and protect her etc etc. Instead she's shagging some *******.

Anywho whatever makes rejection easier I suppose.