Need help understanding a girl

[Mr. Saint]

Women are the most confusing thing in this world. There is this girl I meet at political convention about 6 months ago. So I started hanging out with her at the last two conventions. The last convention about two months ago was her last one ever. She told me to look her up on Facebook, so I made an account and looked her up. We did not talk very much for the first month and then all of a sudden we started talking almost every night. It turns out we get along really well. She just happens to be my exact type, so I would say I have a bit of a crush on her.

A couple of nights ago we were talking online again and it was going great. I had to leave all of a sudden so I said buy real quick and logged off. The next night I logged on and she took me off her friend list so I can’t IM her or see her profile. I know I sound like a nerd but she is to. I am not interested in dating her because her school is five hours away. I am just very confused about her possible motives.

[dancingdoc2]

Her motive doesn't really matter. For all practical purposes she exists in cyberspace. Since you are not interested in having a relationship with her beyond being a "penpal" as they referred to it in the olden days then just let it and her go. Move on to someone you can touch and converse with up close and personal. Forget IM, TM, or cell phones. Look each other in the eyes when you communicate.

[Gorgeous Mistake]

She probably got offended and upset that you left like you did, just another immature reaction to what she may have thought as rejection... That's what I think. Shouldn't matter though, since you just said you don't want to date her.

[lnt1103]

Agreed. Why does it matter what her motives are if you obviously feel nothing for her and don't want to pursue anything? Bye...nice knowin' ya...next!

[Sadfase]

lol. This reminds me (don't laugh) of when I was on WoW. Now keep in mind I have my own little clique of IRL friends I play with. But every once in a while I'll connect with a person online, be he a man or a woman.

And since they are just random online people, when they do something I don't like. I just won't speak to them anymore lol. Why should I care? I say to myself. Cos' srsly... why should I? Anonymity is the key to the internet my friend. If she's decided to blow you off for any reason...
A) it was your fault and you're not giving the whole truth.
B) She's crazy.

bottom line. Get over it friend.

[Mr. Saint]

True, I am not interested in dating her, just because our schools are too far apart. I still really like her as a friend. She is not just some random person I meet on line; I have known her for a year. Every time I am down by her I visited and at every convention I hung out with her the entire time (about every month). Last time this happened it was with a friend of mine that lives in Germany. We communicated through email, in one of my emails I mentioned a female friend of mine and she stopped talking to me. I wrote her a sort of apologies with the help of my lesbian friend (she really knows how girls think). She started talking to me again and now in two weeks I am going to visit her in Germany. I would really like to remain friends with this girl but I have no idea what I did wrong.

The last thing that happened was we were talking online like always. She was giving me a hard time about my spelling and how it was a cop-out for me to take sign language for my General Ed. She showed me this music video she found, I watched it and then I had to go all of a sudden, so I said it was a cool video and I had to go. She said ok and I signed off. Dose anyone have any ideas of what I did wrong? I would really like to stay friends with her.

[dancingdoc2]

> I said it was a cool video and I had to go. She said ok and I signed off. Dose anyone have any ideas of what I did wrong?


IDEAS-

* Try telling her in the beginning that you will/might have to sign off in x amount of time or by a certain time.

* Do not just say I have to go without some explanation. Advise her that you have this or that to do and that you would like to contact her at such and such a time or day. Make your partings have both meaning for the time you were together, and, let her know that you have something else to attend to and would like to put a "bookmark" into what is happening so you can continue on, later.

To recap-

Don't just say goodbye without some explanation of why you have to leave, and give her some expectation of when you will return to carry on.

[EvilEvilKitten]

Since you do NOT say why you suddenly disappear - yes, women will take it BADLY. I know this because I HATE IT when some man does it to me. I at the very least take the time to say BRB or BBL or gotta go TTYL hun. It only takes a second and will save you a lot of grief.

Why do women take it badly. Consider how you would feel if you're having a good time with a some girl and all of a sudden she disappears. What do you do then? You think and think and question "what did I do wrong" etc etc etc. Just what you're doing now in fact. Feels good yes? NOT!! You make her feel bad so she gives it back to you.

MANNERS MATTER

What goes around, comes around.

[Mr. Saint]

All right here is my new question. How do I fix this? I really want her to start talking to me again and it seems like a very stupid thing to get that angry about. I realize it was a bit of a prick move and I will be more cortices next time. I didn’t think it was that big of a deal because we are just friends. So I have her email and I can send her a massage on Facebook and I have her phone number (but her cell is broken right now). So what do I say and how do I say it to make this right?

[lnt1103]

"Sorry I had to sign off so quick the other day. I had to *X* unexpectedly. I'm sure you're busy but when you get some down time I"d love to chat again"