whats worse?

[GotTrouble]

I am new to the board so i know ive missed posts about cheating... but what would you feel is worse...


guys if your girl went out and had sex with some1, or went out and blew someone?

I had a friend, a very hot one, who caught her BF cheating on her...

So she had some1 come over, stripped for him and then he ate her out for like a half hour, next nite she had him back over and he ****ed her.

she never did anything to him tho....

[CleverName]

Well, for me, cheating is cheating, and I would lose respect for the one who cheated on me no matter what they did.

Also, you say HE had sex with HER, but don't forget that SHE had sex with HIM too. So SHE did do somthing to him, SHE had sex with HIM. Plus, she did this just to get back at him? This does not make sense to me... If she cared about him for real, she wouldn't have gone out and had sex with someone else just to get even..

I don't feel an eye for an eye works in relationships.

[dancingdoc2]

Originally Posted by GotTrouble

I am new to the board so i know ive missed posts about cheating.

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.. but what would you feel is worse...
guys if your girl went out and had sex with some1, or went out and blew someone?

Does it make a difference? Both acts are wrong and one is no wronger than the other.

I had a friend, a very hot one, who caught her BF cheating on her...

Technically, it is not cheating because the process of dating is non-exclusive and non-contractual. Dating as a process is not binding even when two people decide to limit their dating to each other. So, while what he did is not unlawful as it would be had the couple been married, it is still wrong conceptually. This has more to do with how each of them together or individually believe their relationship to be. The problem is not so much that he had sex with someone else (B) while dating (A), it is in the breaking of an implied trust. When two people date each other, there needs to be an understanding and a set of rules that they both understand. Dating does not begin and end with the first warm body who expresses an interest in us. Dating is a way to sample what humanity has to offer so that when Mr./Ms. Right does come along we will be better able to recognize him or her. As such a person can date more than one person at a time and have more than one relationship. It is when people assume that a relationship is exclusive that all the drama and trauma creep into the works. So. while not morally or ethically wrong, it is a violation of a trust and this is wrong.


So she had some1 come over, stripped for him and then he ate her out for like a half hour, next nite she had him back over and he ****ed her.

she never did anything to him tho....

Two wrongs do not make a right.

What he did while not necessarily ethical is not technically wrong; what she did was juvenile and spiteful and accomplishes nothing except to demonstrate why dating should be non-exclusive, particularly during the teen years.

[EvilEvilKitten]

If you are not married then it isn't cheating regardless of the actual activity involved.

Nevertheless - these two are too childish to be having a "relationship" with anyone!

[Ducy]

Well EEK, what if you agree? I mean you set the ground rules at the start of the relationship?

Doesnt marriage work the same...You agree that neither will cheat or that it is okay and seal it with a ring.

[Ducy]

Oh and to the OP...

They both suck.

If I caught my girl blowing a guy, I couldnt never get a bj from her without thinking about it, and I would have trouble kissing her (Sounds exagerated but it has happened before and yea..)

[WantsMoreNow]

ZERO tolerance for cheating - but they dont make sense AT ALL... hes an idiot and she just got some instant gratification that she probably felt crappy about later realizing she didnt think about it before she did it... and its just strange b/c i dont see the logic behind it... it made nothing better and/or worse but certainly just wasnt a good situation all around. and if she was trying to get back at him.. wonder if he knows that she did that to get back at him.. either way its unnecessary drama

[lnt1103]

Yeah I get the theory of there's no cheating without marriage, but I'd have to say that if the two members of the relationship consider it cheating then it is. And I agree that an eye for an eye is BS slapping back. They should let each other move on. Trust is like glass-very easy to shatter and once that's accomplished, very hard to repair.

[TnL329]

I think that if 2 people are in a committed relationship, then it is cheating, marriage or not. I mean if I go out with another girl behind my girlfriends back, I feel like it is cheating. Whether anything happens or not.

[constantlylearning]

Tit for Tat is truly never a good solution to any problem. Drama seems to
be created and situations seem to escalate to higher levels than necessary.
Home is where the heart is and if one looks inside themselves then right and
wrong will probably be readily visible.