Help me out please.

[Raidenator]

So heres the deal, and I would greatly appreciate your help.

I've been single for about a year now from a serious relationship. Well, I recently moved into an apartment complex with a few friends (I'm 20 by the way).

So for the past few months before I moved into this apartment I came over here to hang out with my cousin and friends a lot. There was one girl whom we met about 5 months ago that has since become a friend of ours and is over often. The problem is that as of about 2 months ago I've become very interested in her. So I need help with two things.

1. I need help interpreting her actions as to how she feels.

For the past couple of weeks she and I have become pretty close. We have late night talks, she's opened up to me a lot, she's told me about her rocky past, etc. I've always been there to lend an ear but what I'm looking for is signs that she's interested in me as more than a friend. I've talked it over with a few people and here are the things that seem to jump out.

She'll come over late at night to see me, about 12 oclock or so.
She tends to stay over much later after all of my roommates have gone to bed, so she and I tend to watch a movie and/or talk.
She doesn't seem to stay long if I'm not home. She visits but she and my cousin have had something of a falling out with their friendship. They were close at one point but it has disintegrated to something of a casual friendship now. The point being that when she does come over and I'm not home, she leaves quickly.
We used to flirt a lot before we all became more than casual friends. And by "we" I mean she, my cousin, me, and a friend of ours. Harmless flirting, but it seems to have stopped now.
She still dates occasionally and she tells me about them.
Etc.

Any help interpreting this would be great. It's always nice to have an outside point of view. I'm sure there's more to it that I'm not taking into account, but feel free to ask questions to help me clarify the waters.

2. Considering the circumstances, I'm looking to get out of, "the friend zone".

We've been friends for about 5 months and close friends for about a month now. I've been trying to play it cool and give her hints as to my feelings but not trying to come off too strongly either. I'm something of the timid type and I'm trying to keep our friendship open assuming things don't work out.

As for information about her, she has a "blue" personality and I have a "white". She seems to be the type to like to play games and enjoy the hunt a bit but that's just my opinion. Also, she's at a point where she thinks nobody truly cares about her in this town, but I've since told her (maybe not really got the point across) that I really care about her and that I'll always be there should she need to talk or anything.

I hope that's enough to get a gauge on the situation. I wouldn't normally sound so desperate but there's something very special about this girl. I haven't felt this way in a very long time and I'm really hoping I can expound on those feelings. I'm not usually the type to get attached.

[dancingdoc2]

1. Use a method of determination called "Implied Consent". Consent for this, that, or the other action or situation is implied by the very fact that whatever it is is being engaged in freely and willingly and ongoing.

Does she like you more than just a friend? Most probably because she is leaving early if you are not home. Most probably because she is confiding in you more than she would just a casual friend.

2. Ask her out on a real date. Do something she enjoys and toss in lunch or dinner. If she is interested in you, she will accept or give you an alternated date and time if your proposal is conflicting. You can imply from the date that she is either looking forward to more, or, not. If "yes", you can imply that she is consenting and do not have to ask or wonder. Her actions speak volumes.

3. As for being liked in your community, it would appear to me that she has formed friendships with your crowd or why else would she be socializing with all of you. As for having more friends than just your small group, I believe this will happen as she becomes more social and this will happen when the two of you or the other fellas she dates do more things together.

Now, call her up and invite her out. Alternately, if she is over at your apartment, walk her out when she is ready to leave and when outside alone with her, ask her. Make the proposal about her, not about the activity, other than doing something you know she enjoys. Make sure she understands that this is about the two of you sharing quality time and doing some activity together. If all goes well, you can imply that she will consent to being asked, again--and, again, and....