Advice!

[Cohen11]

Hey guys i'm new at this forum as it is my first post anywho i was hoping you guys and gals can help me out with something..

i was talking with a friend about how i have so many lady friends n there all pritty and all that but i never go out with any of them and i feel as if im lonely and want one... anyways she told me that i always have this first impression of such a nice sweet guy but i show myself as just a friend....

how can i approach women or when we are just a bunch of friends hanging out and a new girl come i want to act as not "just a friend" person... i remember last year i was getting close to a girl an we even alked about having sex and i do not know what happened but we didnt have sex and we became good friends:

any help?

[Mr. Saint]

I have had the same problem. What I did was this; if I met a girl I wanted as more then just a friend, I would move twice as fast with the relationship then I would normally be comfortable with. For example, ask her out in half the time you would think is the right time. I believe that there is such a thing as “the friend zone” and that is how I got past it. I also got in to much better shape and started dressing better so certain women would look at me as more then just a friend.

[dancingdoc2]

Not bad advice, however, Saint, I think you jumped the gun. From what I got out of the o/p's message is that he does not ask anyone out. So, my advice is to bite the bullet and ask a girl out. You may get turned down several times as this is just the luck of the draw and how things work so do not let this bother you. Keep on askin'.

If you do not make the first move, there will likely be no movement. Only you can move out of the rut. When you ask, make sure the girl knows you are interested in them and in doing something with them. Place the emphasis on the girl not so much the activity. When you do ask a girl on a date, state the activity, date, and time; then give an alternate stating that if this is not convenient, how about Sunday instead of Saturday and/or would 7:30 be more convenient than 7:00 for example. If she really wants to go out, and if one or both dates and/or times are inconvenient due to previous commitments, she will suggest another alternative. Go with that.

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[EvilEvilKitten]

I have answered this many times - even telling you guys what to say, for heaven's sake! You might try reading around and finding it.

You are not showing your "appreciation of her sexuality" enough. The reason why girls go after the bad boys is that those bad boys give a girl LOUD & CLEAR signals that they are interested in getting close to her. So go forth and give the girls loud and clear signals that you want a date with them.

[machine_rat]

Are all of your lady friends part of the same group? Are you afraid that if you ask one of them out and are rejected, that the rumors will spread around and 'blacklist' you?

[Cohen11]

not always part of the same group and yes it is somewhat the fear of getting rejected but mostly the fear of even asking them not knowing what to say how to start a convo.. looking like an idiot

[Mr. Saint]

The trick to asking some one is not to over think it. Don’t plan it out to much. Just be spontaneous and keep it simple. Something likes “do you want to get lunch together on Saturday”. Can I ask you, how old are you Cohen? Are you in high school or college or anything?