awful stomach ache!

[Gorgeous Mistake]

Well recently (as in yesterday) I broke up with my boyfriend. Now I want to be, or I think I want to be, with my bestfriend.. whom has been in love with me since I can remember. I want to start dating him, but I feel horrible about breaking up with my boyfriend.

I broke up with my now ex-boyfriend because I believed we were no longer compatible.

Now I feel guilty since he calls me crying, begging, saying he'd do anything. He cried all night, and all this morning.

And to tell the truth, I miss him. This is not the first time I've had a boyfriend beg for me back, but it's the first time I feel like maybe I should.

If I did take him back, I would no longer have my bestfriend, and what if I ended up unhappy with my decision?

Now I have this horrible stomach ache, a huge headache, and I feel like my whole body aches... is this a sign? Or is this just sympathy?

[Mr. Saint]

I think that you ultimately have to make this decision on your own. My opinion is that you should wait little bit to make a decision until you can think clearly. Once you no longer feel sick and have some time to think, I think you would be less likely to regret your choice. As for your best friend I can’t tell you if you actually love him or not. I have never been in love with my best friend but about six months ago I slept with him (we are the same gender and are both bi). We were a little stoned when it happened (ok maybe not a little). It was a BIG mistake. After about a month we just pretended it never happened and moved passed it. I also think you need to do what will make YOU happy. I have no idea if this helps but I thought I would write it any way.

[Gorgeous Mistake]

It does help.. thank you. I was just wondering if the sick feeling was my body trying to tell me "hey you made a mistake"..

I think I do need some time to make my decision.

[Mr. Saint]

Glad I could help

[sera300]

Duplicate Which I Edited And Accidently Double Posted....sorry!

[sera300]

Originally Posted by Gorgeous Mistake

Well recently (as in yesterday) I broke up with my boyfriend. Now I want to be, or I think I want to be, with my bestfriend.. whom has been in love with me since I can remember. I want to start dating him, but I feel horrible about breaking up with my boyfriend.

What did you say about life being you own business? And off to College? Date whomever. Date multiple people--we have talked about this.

I broke up with my now ex-boyfriend because I believed we were no longer compatible.

Trust your instincts--ready to get married?????

Now I feel guilty since he calls me crying, begging, saying he'd do anything. He cried all night, and all this morning.

He made you feel guilty since he is still slightly "immature". Let him cry alone since staying at a distance is best off. This is his matter, emotionally, to overcome. I am certain it's not going to be his last break-up & needs time to adjust.

And to tell the truth, I miss him. This is not the first time I've had a boyfriend beg for me back, but it's the first time I feel like maybe I should.

Quit smoking or get over a broken arm--you miss the habit. Develop new ones. Recall not being exclusive? Your business of whom you see is yours???? Again, you and I chatted on this; you just feel bad you caused hurt to another.

If I did take him back, I would no longer have my bestfriend, and what if I ended up unhappy with my decision?

Who stays longer, best friends or boyfriends? In my experience, true friends are the ones for you since they give you the random kick in the be-hind. B/f's have an agenda & this b/f is manipulating you. YOU do not require to make a choice at your age. Why; off to college, smart, beautiful, and many will seek you--life WILL again change for merging to a career. Remember you are strong and will develop into a woman with much responsibility...for now; unless you want to get married, here and now, and begin a family; why make a choice not in your best long-term interest?

Now I have this horrible stomach ache, a huge headache, and I feel like my whole body aches... is this a sign? Or is this just sympathy?

This is due to emotional upset...and internalizing your feelings. Emotional stress will manifest it's self to an upset stomach, headaches, muscle & joint pain...these are classical physical symptoms secondary to stress.

BE STRONG; THIS IS THE BEGINNING OF YOUR JOURNEY DON'T END IT!!! TRY TO ENJOY LIFE AND THE RIDE!

[EvilEvilKitten]

Do you want a man or a lapdog? Crying, begging, pleading - OMG, give me a break! A male doing that would make me feel sick too! Grow a set, buddy!

As for you - stop being such a push-over. If he's incompatible, he's incompatible. Sorry, but there it is. End of story.

[sera300]

Originally Posted by EvilEvilKitten

Do you want a man or a lapdog? Crying, begging, pleading - OMG, give me a break! A male doing that would make me feel sick too! Grow a set, buddy!

As for you - stop being such a push-over. If he's incompatible, he's incompatible. Sorry, but there it is. End of story.

Oh EEK; she has it in her to stand up! She just needs to know it's okay! Him worse then a male puppy!

Would not be surprised he tries to call you threatening to overdose on aspirin...why? All to get your attention. When your age dated a wimp for a few weeks, he did this, friend called and said he was threatening to do such...I told his friend, not my problem, call his parents than if you are concerned. The guy never did it. Master manipulators!!!!

[Gorgeous Mistake]

Sera,

THANK YOU, THANK YOU, THANK YOU, THANK YOU!!!

Wow.. I think I might love you haha!

I did need to know if it was okay... I just felt sorry for the guy, which freaked me out since usually I'm really cold-hearted. I don't want to marry him though, so might as well just get it over with now.

It's going to be awkward since I do have a class with him and all... egh school's almost over! I'ma be very busy senior year anyways.

Thank you so much Sera, always the biggest help.

[Ducy]

Gorgeous, why would you lose your best friend if you dated this guy again? Best friends stick through thick and thin, no matter how stupid or embarassing your mistakes are.

But if this guy said that, then more often then not he isnt worth your time. (Neither of them...what with the crying and the losing the friendship.)