Would this upset you (Calling someone)?

[SinfulExchanges]

My girlfriend is really upset with me because she was with her bestfriend and I couldn't get a hold of her. She had her phone on silent, so I called her friend instead to get a hold of my girlfriend. My girlfriend told me it is embarrassing. Would you be upset with this and please tell me why?

[Cherry Cheesecake]

Well was it some sort of emergency? Or was it just some stupid little discussion that could have waited?

[Ducy]

Yes...I mean if it was just like a "Hey whats up?" conversation.

If it wasnt an emergency, then you dont need to call her friend. Its clingy and almost stalkerish.

What doesnt constitute an emergency:

-Hey whats up?
-Are you busy tonight?
-What size do you where? Fav color etc (Like buying her something and needing to know sizes or something)
-Are you busy next weekend/Wanna go out?
-Why arent you answering?

EDIT:

What does constitute an emergency:

-Im stranded in the middle of no where and nobody is picking up*
-I am in jail and need bail*
-I am in the hospital for "x" reason
-I am dying
-I am dead

The * are reasons that are pretty much only if you have exhausted other resources, such as family or friens...well best friends cuz I certainly wouldn't call an acquaintance for a ride or bail money.

Also make sure you tell her why you are in the hospital right at the beginning so she wont be too freaked out. And only call if its something bad like a broken bone or stitches, not because your best friend is in the hospital, or your puppy is at the animal ER.

[EvilEvilKitten]

No, I wouldn't be upset if you had called me and left a message. But if you had called someone else to get ahold of me just to get ahold of me - of course I would be upset - like I need to be "checked up on"?

Next time: just send her a text saying "Kiss." and be done with it.

[cjb1981]

When my girlfriend is traveling, I always ask her to call me when she reaches her destination, so I know that she got there safely. Aside from that, she calls me, and I call her whenever we feel like it. We talk maybe once a day for maybe five minutes before bed, when we aren't together. Were she to call me a few times a day, and call my friends to find out where I was when she couldn't reach me directly, I would consider that to be too much. It does seem "clingy" to me. Try to put yourself in her place. Would you be a little freaked if she started calling your friends looking for you?

[oedipussy]

You overstepped your bounds. Calling HER FRIEND to talk to her because she wouldn't pick up? No - You just don't do that. If someone doesn't answer their phone, there's a reason: They just don't want to talk to you right now. Learn to accept that and just leave a message or something. No one likes to be checked up on...

[sera300]

I guess it depends on why you were calling. On silent you still get a message & can check them. Calling and just saying hi--no big deal. If an emergency; I could see calling her friend. Calling to check up on her? That would annoy me. Much depends on the reason you called her friend.

[dancingdoc2]

"Checked up on" can be another term for "control".

There are many times I do not answer my telephone and for legitimate reasons.

There are times when I pick up after I hear the caller's voice and choose to talk with him/her then rather than to return the call later.

If you telephoned the person she was with just to get to her when she chose not to answer her own phone is rude and also insecure behavior. It is not unlike telephoning someone over and over and leaving several messages when ONE (1!) message is sufficient.

If this was the case, it was typical juvenile behavior.

[Gorgeous Mistake]

Sinful, hurry and say why you called her.