What am I doing wrong?

[DARK_storm]

I'm a nice guy. I respect women without coming off as a push over. I'm a lil shy when I first meet a girl but I usually open up after a lil bit. And even though girls keepin tellin me I'm a great guy. I still can't even get a second date or lose my virginity. I'm seriously startin to think I'm cursed and will never be anything but just the great guy friend and the loser who can't get laid. Somebody please help me with some advice.

[khatzeen]

Welcome to the club my friend.

[dancingdoc2]

How old are you?

Are you in school? If so, what grade?

Do you have a job?

What hobbies or interests do you have?

Do you live in a big city, small town, rural?

We need more information in order to be of help. Please tell us more about you and your situation.

[DARK_storm]

Im 21
Yes I'm in my second year of college.
Yes I have a job that pays ok money.
I like to go to the gym and work out. I also practice martial arts.
I live in New Orleans so big city.

[bluetide76]

So you tend to fall into the "friend zone" with the ladies? You need to be a bit more confident along with your nice guy personality. For instance if one of the girls asked you to go shopping with them, do you right off say yeah np and go store to store with her as she uses you almost as a girlfriend? You gotta have that separation where you someone who is desired. Most women seem to respond if they see that another girl is interested in you. Like if you brought a date back around other girls you knew, pretty sure they would all be a bit interested in you. There is some notion that if one girl likes you then there must be qualities to you that they must like, so then you get more women after you. Happens often when you have a g/f, suddenly you are prime rib =p. My suggestion is have more fun socially and get involved. Get a group of friends or even just a few people and go out to some bars, clubs, events. The more people you meet the more chances of meeting women. Also knock down on the shyness some, show some confidence and go for it sometimes. I used to be shy and forced myself thinking, hey I get shot down I wont see her again so no problem. It was a little booster but helped. Good luck

[EvilEvilKitten]

When you go shopping with her, make a point out of finsing something sexual about everything she buys or looks at. Just a little something. When she calls you on it just say "Hey, I'm male." and smile and shrug. Carry her bags and offer her your arm. Ask her if she needs 'help' in the dressing room. "Just asking!"

STOP BEING SHY - START BEING A BIT WICKED

[nato762]

Evil kitten is right, I to am a nice guy. Coud never get anywhere until I let them know I was interseted in a sexual way.