looking for some opinions

[slightlystupid]

Me and this girl have been going out for aboout 3 weeks now. i went out w/ her once before but in her past she delt with her uncle that made her unconfortable to the point were she told her parents and it lead to a hole court case when she was pretty little. When we were going out for the first time her uncle was having a hearing so she freaked out and couldnt handle being in a relationship at the time. That being said she is one of those girls that never say the words "i love you". We were so close to eachother that she actually told me she loved me. To get to the point i feel like recently she has been looking for stuff to brake up about because she is freaking out again about her uncle. She says that im changing when im sure im not we talked about it were cool right now but i guess im asking for opinions on how to make her feel more confortable with me and get that spark back.

[Cherry Cheesecake]

If the spark is gone after 3 weeks, it was probably never there in the first place bud. Sounds almost like you guys were good friends that just aren't compatible together, maybe it's because of the stuff she is going through, maybe it just isn't a good fit.

[slightlystupid]

I dont no how to explain it were really great together like actually yesterday we got into an arguement and one of her friends was watching and she just laughed we both looked at her and said wtf she replyed u guys are smiling and flirting through the entire arguement,,,,,i dont no how to explain it but were deff compatible

[sera300]

Sounds as if she is displacing her feelings. The upset with the uncle and the family situation [internally] is not known. Therefore, her "I love you" statement might be seeking validation of worthiness. Take it slow, be friends, flirt, and do not make her your one & only and same with her. She needs to gain confidence in her life.

[emilie]

Her issues have nothing to do with you and everything to do with her. She's the one that needs to handle it.

Just relax, don't pressure her on analize everything. Just stick to your boundaries, don't put up with being treated poorly and let her sort out her issues.

If it doesn't work out, it doesn't work out.

[EvilEvilKitten]

Curb your Galahad Complex!

Please, if the girl has issues, let her have issues. They are hers to solve. You can always refuse to argue. Just say that you will talk about it but you will not argue with her and that her issues are hers to solve.

Talking about something is communication; arguing is about being "right".

and it is "My girl and I". Your put the other person FIRST, else you seem like a selfish and unmannered lout.

And why do you want to go out with someone who "freaks out" like that anyway?

"Baby, leave your baggage by the door."