i dont want to be the rebound guy!

[ezyryder]

hey,

I should start by saying Ive known this girl for a very long time shes actually my next door neighbour and ive always been attracted to her, shes 2 years younger than me and has recently come out of her first relationship which was quite serious and had been going for 2 years. Weve always been really flirty and the banters really cool, I just dont want to be the rebound guy,

so my question is

is there a certain time period i have to wait b4 i ask this girl out?

IS there a rule of thumb for this kind of thing?

[dancingdoc2]

The general guideline for someone you do not know is to let them get over their past relationship. Give the person nine months to a year.

Because you have been friends for ages, the guideline may be able to be relaxed somewhat, however, people are people and there is still a time required for healing and getting on with life as a single person. I suggest being friends and later dating with no strings and no demands; just be friends going on a date. As the nine month mark approaches and if she seems stable and not all caught up in relating stories of the ex then introduce the idea of becoming serious and see how she likes the idea.

Doing like this will keep you in her group of friends, up the ante' a bit, and prepare both of you for what may be.

[ezyryder]

ok that sounds good thanks a lot m8!

[EvilEvilKitten]

Even easier than you thought!
Just remain friendly, if mildly flirtatious, and wait for her to ask you.