"Seeing somebody", need advice

[xgx]

So this girl asks for my number a couple weeks ago. I thought she was really attractive so I gave it to her, and we've been hanging out ever since. From the beginning I got the impression that she is kind of wild, and has been with a lot of guys. Although she says she has only had sex with a hand full of guys and has had a lot of relationships, I'm starting to hear things from people, mainly friends of friends. Basically that she's slept around or whatever. It's coming to the point where I'm on the fence about what I should do. On one hand I do like her, but I'm not sure I can give it my all if I have these thoughts at the back of my head, and I know my friends aren't really a fan of it either. I don't know what to do because she seems to be liking me more and more and if it's just a lust thing I don't want it to blow up in my face. Advice??

[Ducy]

Just ask her straight up. Say something like:

"Look I have been hearing a lot of things lately and I just want to know the truth."

If she says she has only been with a few then take her word. I mean I have known friends hwo people claim to be total whores and they have never touched a man (or woman for that matter)

[Brandye]

Experience: I went through a rather wild and promiscuous time while at university. The street reputation was not the kind a woman likes to have. I certainly will not condemn this woman's actions. Graduation and moving on gave me an opportunity to change my behaviour and image and no one around (univ was in England; med school in Germany) knew anything of my past.

Ducy is correct in some reputations being wide of the mark - especially in adolescent/young adult groups. It may be worth talking out but I am not a believer in sharing all past experiences.

If your friendship group is all against her, it will be difficult for you to escape her supposed past. If the gossip is anywhere near accurate, she may need a fresh start among a different group.

P.S. Remember, Ducy, I lived your little dream and there is a back story there. Most people present had seen them before.

[Ducy]

ROFL brandye. I seriously could not believe that when you told me haha.

And believe me its not a dream, I got it off of a TV show. I am perfectly content with my penis lol

[xgx]

Thanks for the replies so far guys. Half of my worries IS my friends in a way. Like, I know that if I were to date her I would never hear the end of it. But I don't know if I have the balls to tell her "my friends think you're a whore." In a way I'm kind of looking for a way out, without being a total ass. Because I think she's waiting for me to ask her out and I have fun with her, but I don't know if I could see myself being in a serious relationship with her.

[Ducy]

WEll heres the thing. Dont say my friends think your a whore. You just simply say look Ive been hearing that you are "experienced"

[sera300]

Okay guys...here is the deal, we ALL have a past. Now, figure that part out. As you grow older your past grows as well...you just hope you both forgot [cannot remember] when you might run into "part of the past" you might like to temporarily forget.

[oedipussy]

Why the hell does it matter to you what she's done, with whom, and how many times?

Grow up, realize that these "she's slept around" rumors mean absolutely nothing, and get new friends. Stop worrying about what other people think and do what makes YOU happy...

YEEEEESH....

[arutha]

It just depends on whether you care about your friend's approval or not, I have had gf's who none of my friends liked and that was fine with me I just kept the two separate.

As to her sleeping around, well that means she will have more experience and know what to do. Much better than being with a girl who doesn't know what they're doing IMO, what are you worried about? You might learn something. Relationships don't have to be long term, if it turns out badly just stop seeing her.

[EvilEvilKitten]

OMG! So she's not a "pure and pristine little virgin" - GIVE IT A REST ALREADY!

Yegods man, don't you realise you have one hell of good woman on your hands? She likes sex but is choosy about with whom she has it. Great! Apparently she's chosen you! That's terrific and you're in for a good time.

So why are you permitting others to mess up this relationship?
You a wimp or something?