Moving in?

[GreatamericanChallenge]

So first off, sorry if this is a bad place to start this thread. I just asked a co-worker of mine to move in with me. She is very attractive and I am concerned with a few things. I don't want things at home to effect work and work to effect things at home. Also I heard that most guy and girl combos that move in with each other will wind up hooking up? I like her and I would not mind it but we are pretty good friends and I do not think it would be wise? So my question is, would it be a good idea or not? I have never moved in with someone that I knew before hand and I am not sure how it works out? Just a little advice would be great appreciated!

[sera300]

If she is moving in as a roommate; keep it that way & realize she will most likely date. Think of this of how will you feel is there is someone picking her up to go out or if she invites company over? If you get involved with her, you will create a mess; you split & might be angry or she with you then what? Create rules and boundaries before hand. Co-worker, realize your personal business might be shared with others you work with.

If just a room mate relationship women can work out well, you do certain parts of home care and so does she. I would not cross the boundaries.

[Brandye]

Two young adults of different genders living in close proximity with normal sex drives, ....

There is a distinct risk and, already, things at work are affecting things at home or you would not be asking.

[cjb1981]

You should have posted this thread before you asked her to move in It's kind of too late to tell you that you shouldn't ask her after the fact... If you don't want the status of the relationship to change, then you can't change the way in which you have contact, or how much contact you have with the other person. You've brought a friendly work relationship home, with the anticipation of sex. The only way it could turn out well, is if neither of you are jealous a bit, and get into sexual relationships with other people who feel the same way. Or...you start up a monogamous relationship, and things work out for the long haul.

[sera300]

I have to ask...why did you ask her to move in with you? Because she needs a place to reside, you need a person to share the expenses, or for personal reasons? And is the one who was just in the hospital due to her b/f breaking up with her?

I agree with both Cbj & Brandye...tough to keep you life separate. You will reside together, find yourselves lonely, she comes out of the shower & you see her, and she you. Pretty tough situation. If her moving in is a temporary measure, use caution. If it's permanent, you have to figure out what you are doing and look at all unintended consequences. You state you would not mind hooking up w/her...uhmmm, and if that does not work out? Think through what you have just done & set boundaries no matter how tough. I can see it now, she ends breaking up with a date, cries on your shoulder, and bang...you are all over each other, think you really like the other, and find out you don't work. Ughhhh....then how do you get rid of that and maintain your work?

[ducktales]

Worst idea ever.