Moving On...What To Do?

[Ducy]

So I've been single for about a month. And I really wasnt in the mood to date for a while. But then found out my friend (ex) is already being hooked up with someone. And when I was like im happy for you, she was like wtf how long do you want me to wait. (I am happy but it tore me up a bit that she moved on so quick)

Anyways, I just feel totally lost. I mean I used to have no problem talking to girls, but now its like today I went to talk to someone and.....

I just dont know what to do, or how to go about it. Im only 18, so its kinda between a rock and a hard place. Anyone much older is totally different. (I.e. 21 year olds can go to bars and such) Underage girls are illegal. Last thing I need are some crazy parents calling the cops and pressing molestation charges for making out with their daughter...

Any advice?

[Contessa]

Er, I'm a horrible person to be getting advice from, so I'm not going to, but I'll offer you sympathy. It does feel bad when the other person seems to be able to get over it so quickly. Maybe just give yourself some more time? There's no need to rush anything.

[Ducy]

But I just feel like I need to move on. I mean I want to be friends with her, but I know the only way is to get my heart broken by someone else. That way it wont make me feel so sick when she talks about this guy that she is going to meet...and I really have a feeling she is just doing it for the hell of it, cuz she talks about it although she knows I dont like hearing about it

[Contessa]

Maybe you just need to stay away from her for a while then.

[emilie]

Ducy,
I would firmly tell her that you don't want to hear about the new guy. Tell her that her relationships are her business, that you have no interest in hearing about it and that you consider it disrespectful to YOU for her to continue.

If she doesn't listen, cut her off.

I know it can be difficult but you need to put yourself no.1. That includes your feelings.
There's no need to rush into another relationship before you're ready. You can just end up hurting yourself and some other girl in the process.

Take time out to do the things YOU enjoy.
Spend some time with your mates, your family and yourself.

[sera300]

Ducy;

I am with Emilie here. But get out and flirt begin to talk to women. Scared? Pretend you are talking to them but flirting, kidding with one of us...

Ps. Have a fling w/a older woman this time.

[EvilEvilKitten]

Of course she moved on quick - she's FEMALE! Do you have any idea how many males are out there chasing her tail? Hundreds! So - get over it. A young female is a hot property few males can resist.

So you don't want to date. Fine, don't date. But don't hide yourself away either. Go out and do whatever it is you like to do! Focus upon the activity and not upon meeting someone.

Instead of moping about, think - FREEDOM! Now you can get out there and follow what we have been telling others - date as many as you can talk into it simultaneously!

The cage door is open, leave whenever you're ready!

[demonbuttercup]

You've been single for a month? bah I'm so behind LOL
Ducy.. I can never keep up w/ you relationship "status".

I agree though that this girl has been nothing but heartache from the beginning... and if she really gets a kick out of telling you about her new guy...only after a month?!? that's just cruel. You two have been together/split for a long time it seems going back and forth... she should at least have a little more consideration than that!
She's just playing the jealousy game....and then in 3-4 months...she'll want to get back together.
I say stay clear of this chick for good!
Do spend time w/ your friends...and yes if out and about... you can smile and flirt w/ girls.

[cjb1981]

Trying to stay friends after breaking up (unless children are involved) has always seemed odd to me. It just makes thinks more difficult in general (starting a new relationship, trying to get over the old one while still in contact, etc...) When I was 18 dated girls who were 19-20, it worked out well. And when we called it quites and they said they still wanted to be friends, I didn't go for it.

[GreatamericanChallenge]

Dude all i got to say is, If she is older there is a chance that you may be more capable of getting her than someone your own age. I was going out with a 24 year old last year when I was just 18. I am really mature mentally and physically for my age and she liked that. Don't discredit yourself, just talk to them. I know what you mean by its kinda awkward though and your not the only one.