Curious

[tataa]

Not sure if this goes here but.. it's been almost two years since I've been talking to/ been with this person and I still cannot get over him. For some reason I always feel the need if he still thinks about me ( which I doubt ) talking to someone else. I honestly truly want to get over it. I wish there was a quicker way to get over it. I'm thinking about seeing a psychiatrist. Any suggestions?
(negative comments will be ignored)

[sera300]

Have you looked at dating others without being serious? AKA Sport dating? Is this the guy who treated you not so well?

[tataa]

Originally Posted by sera300

Have you looked at dating others without being serious? AKA Sport dating? Is this the guy who treated you not so well?

Yeah it's him. Why is it always so hard to get over the jerks?
Yea I have tried but it always seem too nervous to get into a relationship without getting attached.

[sera300]

Originally Posted by tataa

Yeah it's him. Why is it always so hard to get over the jerks?
Yea I have tried but it always seem too nervous to get into a relationship without getting attached.

Getting over the jerks is tough since we [man/woman] have not experienced the good out there yet and settle.

Not getting into a relationship--date many simultaneously from other schools, areas, etc. Why? You remain unattached and see who treats you well and what you particularly like/dislike. I feel your circle is too small--get out there! Try on-line if you have to get started [gets you in contact with those you would not regularly meet due to your area] or just mingle among other crowds. ONE THING THOUGH--keep your business to yourself and share with no friends! Share here if you must.

Date many men on a friendly basis...much like a job interview & you ask questions and do not get deep into your past. Keep all friendly! You might not find the right person right now but your circle of friends will grow! You are gorgeous and have much to offer...never forget or allow yourself to get dragged down by the old ones!

Are you not going off to college soon?????

[tataa]

Originally Posted by sera300

Getting over the jerks is tough since we [man/woman] have not experienced the good out there yet and settle.

Not getting into a relationship--date many simultaneously from other schools, areas, etc. Why? You remain unattached and see who treats you well and what you particularly like/dislike. I feel your circle is too small--get out there! Try on-line if you have to get started [gets you in contact with those you would not regularly meet due to your area] or just mingle among other crowds. ONE THING THOUGH--keep your business to yourself and share with no friends! Share here if you must.

Date many men on a friendly basis...much like a job interview & you ask questions and do not get deep into your past. Keep all friendly! You might not find the right person right now but your circle of friends will grow! You are gorgeous and have much to offer...never forget or allow yourself to get dragged down by the old ones!

Are you not going off to college soon?????

I'm in college now. Funny thing is he was from online! The guys here are rude and most of them have ex girlfriends who they have a child with or are still messing around with. Guys my age here are just immature. Every single one of them ( I know it's hard to believe but it's the truth). Thanks for the advice Sera. You always have the right words to say.

[EvilEvilKitten]

Tataaa - you need to begin dating the older guys. Generally speaking, they have been kicked in the teeth enough to have learned some manners.

But the other thing: are you sending out the wrong signals to the right guys and the right signals to the wrong guys? Have your girlfriend ask guys "what do you think of her" as if doing a market survey or a school psych project. Record the answer and then read the answers later. (warning - may be harsh). A bit cheesy but at least you'll know how you are being perceived.

[tataa]

Originally Posted by EvilEvilKitten

Tataaa - you need to begin dating the older guys. Generally speaking, they have been kicked in the teeth enough to have learned some manners.

But the other thing: are you sending out the wrong signals to the right guys and the right signals to the wrong guys? Have your girlfriend ask guys "what do you think of her" as if doing a market survey or a school psych project. Record the answer and then read the answers later. (warning - may be harsh). A bit cheesy but at least you'll know how you are being perceived.

I should Kitty! I'm scared though. Most guys think I'm weird. Or they'll probably just be like " she's okay". I have low self esteem when it comes to my looks.

[sera300]

Originally Posted by tataa

I should Kitty! I'm scared though. Most guys think I'm weird. Or they'll probably just be like " she's okay". I have low self esteem when it comes to my looks.

No...you have issues with your looks due to what you are around! If you want an honest opinion, send a PM to me with a pic. or to EEK...bring out your beauty as a woman and get dating. Younger guys at your age are not worth much time! You are smart...and write well. Get it together and date some nice men!

[tataa]

Originally Posted by sera300

No...you have issues with your looks due to what you are around! If you want an honest opinion, send a PM to me with a pic. or to EEK...bring out your beauty as a woman and get dating. Younger guys at your age are not worth much time! You are smart...and write well. Get it together and date some nice men!

Aww thanks Sera. I'm going send you a pic

[sera300]

Originally Posted by tataa

Aww thanks Sera. I'm going send you a pic

Got it and replied....You are gorgeous. What's up with the look thing?

You need to get a bit of an attitude of you are good...attract nice men!!!

EEK...this woman is gorgeous...tell her how to get out there!