I don't get it.

[Flyer]

So several months ago I made a thread asking about sites where I can meet women who just want sex. I looked around and found a few sites I liked, and signed up. Well here's the problem. It's been tough as hell to get replies to my e-mails. I have a picture up, my profile is filled out. I'll just send an e-mail, and if it's read, it typically goes reply-less.

Anybody have any suggestions? I'm kinda lost here.

[dancingdoc2]

This is typical behavior of the fairer gender. You just received an important lesson in how women are wired and thus think and act. Ads rarely work and serve as a point of amusement, only.

Better me thinks to let family members, friends, and coworkers know that you are interested in dating and have them do some searching for you, also. It's called "networking". Meanwhile, join a club or social group or sporting activity in which women also participate.

[sera300]

Flyer:

Might want to look at your profile and review it. Generally, over-looked men are due to what/how they write their profile. Typically older women will seek what you want, younger ones are "playing" to see what's offered or selling you to go to their paid site.

I have found the best ones posted by men are those who are seeking a friend/companion with a NSA relationship. It's occasionally to enjoy interests together where you can go out have a drink/snack AND sex. The main focus is sex though. Also look at the women you are targeting and see if they also post a profile in dating or alternative relationships; that will tell you more about those you respond to. And also your status; married or single & age will play a part in selection. These sites generally have three profile categories, if seeking an intimate encounter only state just that but be certain she did not post in dating or alternatives. Why? They are seeking more than they are suggesting they want.

As a woman who has looked at these sites, I'll leave that endeavor alone, women do typically get many felonious requests from unsuitable characters. Often I found men just wanted to do on-line chats, phone sex calls, not real in what they want, and not really looking to play in life. Or have found men who disclose they are married when I did state no married or engaged men. Why? They think they will lure a woman into being their one and only. These are the men you can not get rid of since they are so hot, heavy, and a pest.

[EvilEvilKitten]

Please review not just your profile but your ENTIRE presentation. Think "effective marketing" here. Are you presenting yourself truthfully and as a desireable partner? Women read profiles in their entirety and women are into 'nuance' so be careful not only in spelling and grammar but also in the quality of the language used. Your photographs and even the background colors used will all have an impact.

Next, "effective targeting". Do not just send out random e-mails. Women can spot them in a heartbeat and you should be grateful that they do not respond for their responses will be ego-bashing. Carefully READ the profile, ALL of their profile. Read their blog if it is there as well. Get a feel for who this person is. E-mail ONLY those who seem to match you and your desires. Once again - do not send even these ladies a 'standard form letter' but tailor your e-mail specifically to her.

Good luck!

[sera300]

To add on to what EEK posted; brought a thought. Don't batch send emails and do not write Hi Babe! Too often men do this, casually if they encounter you on-line on any site, I find it offensive. I do not know them, have no wishes to either, and if I did they blew the chance sending me that e-mail. Add that to a sex only site, use caution on how you approach people, and really what you do write. Crude? Will not get a response. Just a warning.

[Thresher_V]

Hey I setup an account as a woman once to mess with someone. Within the first hour I had over 50 "friend" requests and/or IM's.....Maybe I'm make a more desirable woman that man, lol.

Nah, they get bogged down with so many, you're just white noise. You gotta stand out more.

[sera300]

Originally Posted by Thresher_V

Hey I setup an account as a woman once to mess with someone. Within the first hour I had over 50 "friend" requests and/or IM's.....Maybe I'm make a more desirable woman that man, lol.

Nah, they get bogged down with so many, you're just white noise. You gotta stand out more.

See though Thresher V; that's what most men do. They set up an account to check it out--as a man though, LOL.

You end up as a woman with about 50 hits in 1/2 hour...guys who want to chat, phone, etc. Meanwhile, you clearly stated what you want--sexually. There are some who are married with the wife who does not understand and they chase you non stop; wanting to get you to be their one & only on the side. Or the other "players". I was not looking to "date"; I wanted sex. Ended up meeting a few decent guys, over time, through being selective and was shocked when people were wondering where this mystery woman was they were taking off to see. One guy needed to bring a date to a wedding...so I went after I had spent a great deal of time with him. So sex turned out later to be a date for a few of them; others...strictly intimate encounters only.

However, many men have said even on paid sites? They are getting women who are seeking to lure you into a chat and have you go to their web-cam site so you can pay to see their shows since they already have the slight upper hand having you all ready to go.

I always choose men who are relatively close or who I knows a person in common. Otherwise, might end up with a freak--noticed lately though these sites are garbage filled. I joined them about 7 years ago so they were relatively clean of spam.

So, be really careful what you write and how you write. Regardless of the sexual encounter, women do want to be treated respectfully as does a man. If you did have a profile, ask someone who is a woman friend you can trust to read it for critiques that knows these sites.

[Thresher_V]

I'm on a site for webcams called fling.com, it's a branch of webdate.com that was started to allow more provocative webcam viewing....the parent site was getting too raunchy apparently.

I don't want to sound as though I'm picking on people, I just made the female account to get back at a couple of morons I saw on the site. It was fun to con them into writing me, then posting what I received in the room.

[sera300]

I guess I do not get it! Why not just go out and find what you want v. playing on-line? It's not real [tangible] to me; therefore, I cannot understand too much of it. If I want to go out and meet someone; I do it.

Go out & meet, greet, talk, see if you have something in common to share & if there is a specific talent. Test drive, see how that goes, and keep at it. But web-cams? Your not touching the other...

[Thresher_V]

Oh I just do that because it was free and fun to do after work. I'm not trying to look for anything there.