What to do .....

[Roadbobbles]

So there is this girl "Amanda" who has caught alot of my attention off and on over the past few months. Last semester we both had a college class together and were complete strangers. So on the first day of class I walk in and from the first second I saw her i was smitten by her and decided i was going to sit behind her. We started talking on the 2nd day of class and We would joke around some, and at times it was borderline flirtatious. We talked basically every class though at least a little, however she had a b/f at that time, so I never had a chance (or the guts) to ask her out. I'm normally much more confident and don't have problems with this kinda stuff, but this girl is different to me I guess you could say.

Well for our class we had a field trip we were going to all go together, and then we had to report back to the class what happened for extra credit, so we exchanged numbers. We would text each other randomly - but i would initiate it more then her. Usually she would have to have an excuse to text me like "happy Halloween" etc.

So today I decided to text her "Happy St Pattys Day" and after she responded we text back and forth for another 2 hours or so. At one point, I asked in a round-a-bout way if she still had a b/f, by asking if she was living alone or not (in her new house) and she answered back "I haven't moved in yet" - so i have no clue if she has a b/f or not still.

So my question you all - what should my next move be if i want to seriously pursue this girl? Its been a while since I've tried to "seriously" date someone.

p.s. Additional important information - I currently live about 20-30 mins away from her but im planning to move in the next month or three about 5-10 min away from her (but not because of her - for a different reason)

[gorgeous_mistake]

Why don't you just try asking straight forward

"Do you have a boyfriend?"
"Would you like to go out sometime.. just get coffee, or a bite to eat?"

What's so hard about that.. I much prefer a guy who is straight forward

[Ducy]

Yea...Gorgeous makes the most sense. I mean just ask. It may be intimidating at first but hey...My girlfriend called me up on valentines day last year and said "thank you for the card and flowers. Ummm...did you want to start something or were you just being friendly?"

Sounds totally insane but I thought it was funny and cute and I said yes.

[gorgeous_mistake]

Ha that's the way I am. I kinda like to dig into the real meaning of things.

"So.. why'd you do this?"... "Why'd you say that?"

[Knight]

Students need to eat. If you want to spend more time with her, invite her to have lunch/break with you at the cafeteria or at some other venue.

This way you can actually talk about stuff and learn more about her. I don't know how much your getting with a text-message or a few words in class. Your also not necessarily revealing your intentions too soon by asking her where she stands with you.

This is the more cautious approach and there are many on this site who will probably just say to just ask her out.

Whatever you decide to do, best of luck.

[dancingdoc2]

Begin a verbal dialog with the woman and stop exchanging text messages.

[oedipussy]

Don't ask her if she has a boyfriend - that doesn't matter to you. Her, maybe, but it's not any of your concern.

Just ask her out; She'll either say yes or no. Assuming she says yes, at the end of the night, if all goes well and she seems interested, make your move and kiss her. Then take it from there...

[Roadbobbles]

Originally Posted by oedipussy

Don't ask her if she has a boyfriend - that doesn't matter to you. Her, maybe, but it's not any of your concern.

That is a very good point and perspective.

I attempted to ask her out last night to a st. patty's day party they had going at one of the local places, but I found out she already had plans before I got that far to try and ask. I'll definitely try again though soon.

This whole situation is just kinda weird for me because I don't normally get all giddy like this. I feel like a 5th grader on the playground haha

Thanks for all the advice though