This is Maddening

[KMB]

Ok me and my boyfriend have been together for a while. The problem is I cry every Every Night cause I don't talk to him. It's still happening. I'm soo in love with him but I call him ever day and more then once, and if he doesn't pick up or something I get upset cause I'm worried he might be doing something that would hurt me. It makes me soooo confused and upset, no duh!
I need help from someone on here besides my mom she just gets mad at me and yells at me cause of the way I act when I want to talk to my boyfriend and if I don't I go crazy I get soo upset I throw up and I just go mad.

and that's not all only it's long story.

[Thresher_V]

I know the easy response would be to find a hobby. On a more deeper level, maybe you could exchange keepsakes. Something you can use to stay attached without actually being in contact.

I remember the long shifts I use to work. 12 hour days all weekend. Basically I'd come home shower, eat, and sleep. At breaks I'd distract myself by making to do list, could be household chores or even activities you and he could do.

Maybe join a gym or get a friend to hang out with 2-3 times a week. After awhile you might find it easier to be separated. Besides, the more you're apart, the more you'll treasure the time you have together.

[gorgeous_mistake]

Wow you're going to get chewed out! Not by me. Just a warning.

Well my advice, why don't you focus on school instead of your boyfriend? You should consider it convenient that he isn't constantly on your butt. Lay off your boyfriend's for awhile. Get ahead on your studies, do some extra credit, organize your room, organize your binder, do something that will benefit YOU.
He needs room to breathe, and you need to let him. You're being very needy, thats a huge turn off for a guy. Be independent, you don't need him (even though you think you do); he doesn't feed you, clothe you, or give you a roof over head, your mom is right for getting mad.

[oedipussy]

KMB - It's well past time for you to GROW UP. Unless you're still being bottlefed, there's no excuse for your behaviour. It is NOT attractive. People are going to get really tired of having to baby you all the time, and eventually they'll just avoid you altogether. You're acting like a spoiled kid - at your age you should expect better from yourself. Are you an ADULT or are you a CHILD? It's your choice...

This guy isn't responsible for you or your feelings - YOU are. It's not his job to complete you - it's YOUR job. If you rely on someone else for your happiness, you're not ready to be in any type of relationship. Step up and be your own person. By using him as your security blanket, you're preventing yourself from becoming the independent, mature adult you need to be.

You've gotten some good advice here - now it's your responsibility to follow through with it...

[sera300]

KMB:

You went through this before. Cut him loose to be his own person and find things to do on your own--making you your own person. Let him call on you, remember? The more you chase him the more he will avoid you. Get back to your Vet work! Volunteer at the local animal shelter...Then when you do talk you have something to discuss!

You are deriving your self value/worth from him rather then from within yourself.

[dancingdoc2]

In addition to what the others have stated is this: A relationship is an entity in which two individuals come together in order to build something greater than the sum of its two parts. To do this, each of you must be be separate independent people who choose to join forces and to bring the results of your daily activities in order to share and to make both the relationship and each other better.

The crying and the need to telephone him more than once a day is both needy, dependent, and your insecurity. What you are saying is that you do not trust him. What it really is is that you do not trust yourself.

Trust is given, and unless or until it is broken, should not be questioned; instead, accepted and permitted to flourish. If you are questioning his loyalty, his activities, yet have no evidence that he is doing anything to you or against the relationship then STOP this counterproductive behavior. You will end up driving him away.

Oh, and what's with this becoming mad and vomiting? Take a good look around you and see how many others are behaving like this. Are the adults around you? Are the wives and girlfriends of men in the military who are away from home behaving this way? Are the wives and girlfriends of long haul truck drivers who are away from home for days at a time behaving this way?

Talk no more than once a day, and better yet, every couple of days. Make your phone calls short, sweet, and to the point. Do not spend more than fifteen minutes on the call.

Come on--grow up. Right now it is you, not him, who is your own worst enemy.

[sera300]

KMB:

Join a Gym and start working out with cardio and weights. It helps.

Remember I posted this link since it reminds me of you both:http://youtube.com/watch?v=r_mhpRz0l...?v=r_mhpRz0liA (GoodCharlotte--I don't want to be in love)

[KMB]

I Thnank you all for your advice and I really don't want to mess up my love life doing this.
I really want to work on it and I will. I really don't want to do this anymore it will ruin my life.

[dancingdoc2]

I know and understand that you "really don't want to mess up my love life...."

You cannot count on or expect a/ny fella to round out and complete your life or character. What we can expect is that each person in the partnership of a relationship compliment the other and make him/her better by what we do with and for each other. The foundation for this is that each person is one with them-self. If each of you can live separately, you can live together. The idea that I need him/her to make me whole is immature. So, learn to live life as a single woman; then, when the time comes to introduce a man into your life, bring your personality and all that you have become and add this to his life. If he does this for you, both of you will be greater than you are now.

In a healthy partnership, a each person gives in order to receive. This is quite different than being needy and taking from the other person. Please tell me what you understand out of what I've been writing to you.

[EvilEvilKitten]

Make very sure that you do fix this, KMB. I am waiting.