HELP! I'm a jealous freak!

[gorgeous_mistake]

Finally, I came out! I get uncontrollably jealous! It lasts for about a minute when I do but causes major problems, and I can even feel the blood rush to my head! I need major help!

How I Discovered it:
My boyfriend got a call, from some girl and I just got mad and jealous. He gets texts from a chicks, and I freak over that too. And the weirdest thing about it is, that I know for a fact he doesn't respond or answer other girls calls. Either way I shouldn't get jealous, right?

Please help! EEK, I think you'll have some good stuff on this.

THANK YOU ALL!

[Confusedone]

I have a friend who got uncontrollably depressed when her bf at the time would talk to another girl. (granted at the time he cheated on her...but thats not the case here)

what i found worked best when you get jealous of the fact that he has female friends that he talks to, its best to either have male friends you talk to. Not so you have someone to cheat on him with to get back at him, but kinda so he can get the same feeling of jealousy... i found that my friends bf got jealous of her hanging with me even though i would never steal her from him.

another possible method is trying to ignore it, maybe let him know your a jealous girl and have him try not to get a lot of texts and phone calls from girls when your around. if you keep your mind off the problem, you will be more at ease with it

[gorgeous_mistake]

Well he knows I'm a jealous freak and he is one also. Most of my friends are guys, personally males are better companions (I think). He does have the same reactions I have, if not worse. But I don't really mind, kind of like it, haha.

Actually he's told girls to not text him or call him, I've actually seen him avoid hugs from girls. He's really into the one girl and one girl only thing. I doubt he would ever cheat on me, he wouldn't have time to anyways ha.

But yet this still isn't enough for me WHY WHY WHY!!

[Confusedone]

its possible that your a little insecure about yourself or your relationship with him. either you feel like hes to good for you or something along those lines.

[gorgeous_mistake]

Too good for me?? Nah!!
Sorry a little conceited.
I think it's cause I'm so posessive, I know I don't own him but still, and I'm a huge brat.
I just want to stop that. I want to be ok with it.

[Confusedone]

as far as i know...and this isn't much..the only real way to get over your possessiveness and jealous is to basically consciously know that your like that and consciously try not to over react.

i know its not much help...but its the best i a can offer saddly

[gorgeous_mistake]

haha thats what i've been doing
thank you though!

[Confusedone]

your very welcome i wish i could be of more help though hopefully someone else will comment

[sera300]

Jealousy is based on insecurity. One promise being jealous over others will not keep him around, it will merely push him away since it becomes a battle which is very tiresome. The rage like feelings you get are secondary to getting your adrenaline going; learn to control it through introspection. What has happened which makes you so possessive?

[gorgeous_mistake]

Well he understands the whole jealous freak thing, he really doesn't care, he also likes it. It's more for me if anything, not about him at all.

As for introspection, I've tried over and over to understand my feelings.

I can't recall anything that has made me so possessive, except that I am an immature selfish brat that needs to grow up. But of an actual experience, scenerio... um nothing.

I hope you can help!!