Friends with benefits!?

[Sam432]

ok.. so there is this guy who i like and we do the same sport so I see him everyday. Anyways, we have been talking for a long time and have been kind of friends with benefits for a couple months.. just messing around every now and then. But no one knows and when we're around anyone else we act like we don't even know each other. He says he wants to just have fun with "no strings attached". I actually like him though.. any advice about anything having to do with this subject?

[info_junkie]

You have to stop. I know it sounds bad but you have to. At the ned of teh day he is using you then ignoring you. He has made it clear he doesnt want anything. Sorry hun. I would find a guy you deserve.

[gorgeous_mistake]

Just appreciate that you can have a mess around buddy! He obviously just wants that, as he has stated to you before. Be happy, have fun! As for liking him, i don't know how to put this in a nicer way but get over it. Having a crush on him is not unusual at all, but you shouldn't let it get any further than that, could end up getting hurt.

[Sam432]

That's something I have thought about.. I was thinking about asking him again what he wants out of this since the last time we talked about it was quite a while ago and I want him to know that I actually like him.. but also we have only "hooked up" like twice and haven't had sex yet. But I do like him a lot.. basically I'm just confused.

[info_junkie]

Sounds like he isnt good enough for you. I would find someone else. I understand you like him...

Talk to him though to clarify. If its what I have thought tell him he is a twat lol

[gorgeous_mistake]

It's not worth it, he seems pretty typical. I understand why you developed feelings for him but he did make it clear to you. Don't push it, if you want something more find someone else. You should never get emotionally attached to someone who you know just likes to mess around. I really do think you should just move on. It's obvious you did get emotionally attached.

[Sam432]

lol thanks for your input.. I've been wanting to talk to him about it, I just have to figure out how to word it to him.. not quite sure what I want to say or how I should go about it..

[gorgeous_mistake]

Ha you must really need the closure huh? Well maybe it'll work out how you want it to! Good Luck!

[info_junkie]

hope you get your clarification. Do what is best for you, even if it means not seeing him again.

[Confusedone]

if you wanna make it more than just a friend with benefits set up...you have to end the benefits.

as far as i have been told by my female friends if guys can get it for free they wont commit...

i saw it my senior year in high school a girl got messed with because this guy she liked wanted her for fun but was to ashamed to date her for a messed up reason.

its best if you end it if you end it he will think with his head not his second head and hopefully make the right decision