I pray someoen can help me out :)

[Jasons_Lady]

Hi,

I am searching for answerrs that ou may or may not be able to enlighten me on.
I have been in a relationship for over 3 yrs.. When being intimate with my bf I am wetter than you can imagine and my nipples are hard as rocks. All good right?! Well heres the issue, when we start massive foreplay and intercourse, I am only slightly wet and my nips go soft...I am frusturated and don't get it. I can think of him and I am soaked still after 3 yrs but as soon as the intercourse starts I am not as umm wet or my nips start to go soft. I know he is as frusurated by it because I over heard him telling his buddy. I could of crawled ina hole. Please help me to understand what to do to turn this around. When just a mere thought of him or physically seeing him gets me all aroused , what the heck is wrong with me lol I am highly frusturated by this as well , I pray someone out here can advise me or explain to me - I'm lost, When he comes back soon I want my parts to be up to par not only for him but for myself I am deeply in love with this man
Thank you

[machine_rat]

Maybe the problem isn't with you, perhaps your boyfriend is a poor performer. Is he trying his best to please you?
Are you telling him what exectly it is you like to feel, or advising him on things that don't quite feel right?
I ask because it sounds as if you seem to like the ideal more than the act itself.

[Brandye]

Do not double post. Responses are at your "other."

[Jasons_Lady]

Brandye, Thank you! I never thought I bought cheap bra's. Any suggestions on best place to purchase a couple?

Thank you kindly, Jason's Lady

[Jasons_Lady]

Machine Rat,

Thank you for your response. With Jason and I he never fails to amaze me from time to time. I have to agree with you most of the time it is him. He will let all inhabitions go and when lol there's a moment on his end of realization how much he's opened up to me, he clam's up. Typically meaning when he becomes sober. I also feel your somewhat accurate and gave me something to think about. Yes the idela is none the less than erotic the final act 70% of the time is when I sometimes clam up. Sorry life has been majorly stressful on all aspects recently. I also "think" I am still overcoming a rape 2 years ago unconciously. I thought I had fully dealt with it. As ok as I feel about it now there must be some lingering aspects. Mentally I feel ok it took me 8 months to be intimate with Jason again and that started last summer being able to. Anywho I am babling but thank you kindly for opening that door I thought was fully shut.

TC, Jason's Lady

[amphette]

It sounds like his dick is not as good as it could be. You need to experiment with different techniques. Find out what turns you on. Like, maybe he could eat fruit off of your nipples. (Flavored warming liquid is better bc he'll want to get all of it off.) Suggest that when it is in, he moves in circular motions.

Honestly the best way to do it is to be a dominatrix. Get very demanding(only for one session) and tell him that he has not been satisfying you and that you are going to tell him how to do it better. Just find new techniques and "make" him "learn" them.

Don't be afraid to use sex toys. Buy sexy lingerie(matching bra and thong sets, teddies, etc.). "Forget" to wear underwear bottoms when you are with him. Go to a sex store with him. There is one in every city; they are just hidden. All you need to do is teach him how to ****, so that he can make love to you. Watch porn together. Eat ice cream and tease him with the way you move your tongue.

[EvilEvilKitten]

Sex toys? She already has the best 'sex toy' on the market - him.

Now then, get counseling for the rape - immediately. You are having lingering effects from it. You were quite right to think so.

Next, take charge and educate your fellow. Please see www.wickedwomangroup.us to help you along with this. There are plenty of sticky posts in this forum as well that will provide guidance. I suggest the one entitled Bodyworship.

[Jasons_Lady]

Thank you for your good advice, it's appreciated!