02-09-2008, 08:22 AM
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Performance Anxiety?
So, I met a new guy a few months ago and we finally found the time in our busy schedules to have a day all to ourselves. This was our first time having sex with each other. We started the day with alot of hugging and kissing. Then progressed to oral sex, which was absolutely incredible for me... it felt like he was sucking the life right out of me. I was ready to pop at any moment. Then when the time arrived for him to pentrate me, he lost his erection. Does this happen often with adults having sex with each other for the first time? Just curious. He seemed almost heartbroken.
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02-09-2008, 09:17 AM
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Nerves tend to play a major role. He most likely did get nervous or had a performance thought. I know when I went into my first time I was very nervous about pleasing her, I wanted to make sure I didnt orgasm in like 2min and leave her disappointed. Did you move from him giving you oral to the intercourse? Sometimes when he is doing work, say oral, he will lose a bit of the turnon and start thinking about his performance instead of savoring the moment. In the future instead of dwelling on it if he loses the erection, go back to foreplay basics and seduce him making him forget about it. You can also do a bit of manual stimulation or oral for him to get him harder. Good luck and let him know it is ok and natural, give him confidence in pleasing you and he will go far.
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02-09-2008, 10:15 AM
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The first time with a new partner is always a crap-shoot. Men really get down about this but somehow his body was telling him not to. Next time, it may go grandly.
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02-10-2008, 06:46 PM
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YES, this is normal. Men are NOT machines. They are people too and YOU need to get in there and participate in this with him. Some mutual oral perhaps, your hands busy while he's doing cunniligus - something along those lines. Give as good as you get - and he'll be just fine. Sex does improve upon acquaintance and participation.
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02-11-2008, 03:18 PM
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There is a very simple and yet very obvious (to me) concept that is: if the erection subsides--(try and) rebuild it. Why not try this before giving up in a sigh of depression?
If the erection does not come back after a few minutes, then you can give up after you have been satisfied. INTERCOURSE / ORGASMS / and the gentle art of Humping
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