multiple problems

[justjoe]

My girlfriend and I have been dating for almost four months, We've been having sex since the begining. Overall our time together has been amazing with a few exceptions. I was hoping I could get some advise on what to do.

#1- She says I'm not demanding enough when it comes to sex. Reason being last week I was horny as hell but she wasnt feeling good. I didn't persue anything because of it. The other day we were messing around and somehow it came up. She yell and said I should have said somethng. Now I don't claim to be a smart guy by anymeans but I couldn't figure this out.

#2- I'm not really a jealous guy. I've always have been okay with my girlfriends having guy friends and hanging out with them with or without me. Now this might be a hard one to explain but one of her best friends (Matt) for many years is also her ex-boyfriend. They were friends before dating and sex and after. She still mentions him alot around me. One thing that really gets to me is when we have our little arguements (nothing serious) she always says that she will just go back to sleeping with Matt. To top it off I found out that one night after I left her place that he came over and the had sex. Of course I found that out and I was PISSED OFF which I don't think it's unfiar to say I had every right to be. For what its worth she did come stright out and tell me about it so I wouldnt need to here it from someone else. I've met Matt only a few times just. She now wants the two of us to become friends. I told her she is out of her mind. but she keeps trying to push the issue. So I guess what I'm looking for is... Was it wrong of me to keep her when she had sex with another guy and says what whe says? and should a attempt to be Matt's friend?

[Sexless Loser]

#1: You were in the right not to push the sex subject when she wasn't feeling well. She must be ****ed up to want you to push her into having sex like that. Sex isn't something you should demand.

#2: This is just my opinion but... LEAVE HER! If she had sex with her ex like that, what the **** is going to stop her from doing it again??! So what if she came out and told you, it doesn't make it okay!

[Thresher_V]

Dump the *****. I'm not a controlling guy, but I do expect certain loyalty. If she ever threatened me like that, I wouldn't hesitate to send her packing.

[EvilEvilKitten]

Justjoe - GROW UP!

1. You were right not to push the issue; sex when ill is NOT good, so just ignore that but in general she wants more attention than you're currently giving her hence the head games. Give her more attention if you wish to do so. Just stop buing-in to her games by getting upset so damn easily.

2. You are WRONG being at all jealous or possessive with her. YOU ARE NOT MARRIED TO HER. You have no rights here other than those she wishes to give you. Now then, if she's trying to make you feel jealous, do NOT play into that at all. Her other men are none of your business (use condoms) and as far as you are concerned, they do not exist. PERIOD. Remember, jealousy is for losers - always.

Now as to you and Matt becoming friends, I don't think you're ready for a 3-some yet. 4 months is a bit early in the relationship for that esp since you both are rather young. She seems to be the 'toying' type that is to say, she likes playing head games. Do NOT ever let her get away with that. Tell her she can play with Matt all she wants but if she wants to play with you, she'll have to stop the little girl games asap! Got it?

[sera300]

And you find what wonderful about her charming personality? Come on, okay ill means no sex, unless she begins it and all is cool w/you. But the rest of her nonsense? Date her but see others.









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