move on? cheating?

[eminatic]

alright just ****ing forget it then.
ALOT OF PEOPLE ASK FOR ADVICE ON THE SAME EXACT **** AND DONT GET FLAMED.
dont bother replying i wont be back.


thanks to the few who gave actual advice.

[oedipussy]

Oh geez - is this seriously that hard? This is what we call a "no-brainer"... Do you want to be in a relationship WITH YOUR PHONE or would you rather have the real thing? This "ex" is in another state - he may as well not even exist. MOVE ON WITH YOUR DAMN LIFE.

Save yourself for someone you see, what, four times a year? Quit being ridiculous. You don't owe anyone anything. Time to grow up and start acting like a woman rather than a needy little girl... Forget the ex. You'll be happier for it.

[thedeparted00]

Is this the guy who you moved across the state for and dumped you? The one you has a threesome to please him while he was your ex? If it is; get real and some self-worth. Being a man; I would not get near you with a ten foot poll due to your issues and lack of respect which I have read here. I also notice many no longer post to you.

[dancingdoc2]

Why are you being the submissive one with each of these fellas--or any? Take charge! Define the relationship as you desire it to be and let them know this is what I want from a relationship, can you do this?

I do not believe that you should be in an exclusive relationship with anybody for the time being. You are at the age when you should be dating and dating lots of men--none exclusively. By doing so you will be opening yourself up to lots of different experiences that one person cannot deliver, the likelihood of going on more dates is greater; and, you have the opportunity to educate yourself by learning what humanity has to offer. You expose yourself to many different personalities, characters, likes, dislikes, quirks, morals, values, goals, etc., so that when the time does come to settle down with Mr. Right, you will be better able to recognize the person.

Inform each and every guy (including these two) that you are choosing to date non-exclusively. Doing so also saves you the drama and trauma that often accompanies deeply emotional relationships, particularly when they break up. By dating openly you have less invested in each one while getting the social benefits and learning more about people in general.

Let family and friends know that you are available to date and have them help in your search. This is called "networking". Join organizations or groups that interest you and where fellas are likely to be, also.

[Ducy]

Move on em...because he is seriously only there because he wants his "options" open...you have more value than that...and besides this friend of yours who wants to get together...could turn into to something fun...I mean date him...even if it doesnt go farther than that

[eminatic]

Originally Posted by thedeparted00

Being a man; I would not get near you with a ten foot poll due to your issues and lack of respect which I have read here. I also notice many no longer post to you.

wtf? i've made ONE other post in the past couple of months and there was no shortage of flames and i wasn't asking whether YOU were interested, i was trying to get advice on how to deal with someone who is interested.

oedi- i have plans to move back to that state, either at the end of this year or next...

i dont know i just wanted to make sure we are all on the same page before making the next move...if seems wierd being involved with someone else without officially breaking it off with my ex. i dont really feel right about seeing more than one guy at a time

[browneyedgirl]

Stop all contact with the jerk who is treating you like crap. Reading your post was just one slap in the face after another; this guy is treating you like you're not even there and you are wondering whether he might still like you. You are not with him. He is ignoring you, he won't answer your calls, and yet you are sleeping with him. He broke up with you by text message. Then he told you that you were allowed to visit him if you didn't "do anything stupid." At that point, I am having trouble understanding why you would visit him. Then you had sex with him and let him toy with your emotions. But he wasn't saying you were back together. You just hoped against hope that it might happen. Now he is ignoring you again. You are NOT going out with him, and if you could be, please don't tell me you would want to be! I am sorry if this sounds harsh, but I am just recapping what you told us. He is not interested in you, and you shouldn't be interested in him if you like yourself at all. There is a book you need to read - "He's Just Not that Into You" which can be found here http://www.amazon.com/Hes-Just-That-.../dp/068987474X. Don't make excuses for your ******* ex. You can do better. End contact of any sort with him. I don't care what he tells you. Meet up with the new guy if you want to, but make sure he's different than your ex.

[Thresher_V]

I agree with brown, and it's not just because of the nice legs in the av.... You need someone that cares for you and not just wants a fall-back option.

[thedeparted00]

She carries on here eminatic about the most absurd things...to obtain attention. One I recall lurking while you wanted to kill yourself. You may not like and you may hate my opinion. Stop being a little girl. Try some real woman issues on for a change...I'd walk too from you.

Now pick your but up and act like an adult instead of a child or get some damned therapy..Maybe Evil can put this nicer then I...I despite women rather "girls" who do nonsense for attention. Why not find him and see if he wants to get married? For Christs sake. Stop chasing men all over the US. YOU ARE DESPERATE and appear that way.

Roll your eyes all you wish with sarcasm...fact is you are alone for reasons...think hard about that. Others are being kind...SERA tried to help...you just carried on and Brandye does not respond? Get the picture yet???

Flamed? I wonder why? Few posts and no real answers? Wonder why? Perhaps a therapist will take a personal interest in your "causes".

I went through and read your posts...flamed? Maybe because your obsession with shootings and morbid death is no real to you. Perhaps, you should see some of the most violent murders there are and the stench...leave you in "gang bang" land for a while, live within it and see how great it really is. Smell jelled & rotten blood? maybe that will make you think...or a hanging of a body in a hot attic where the maggots crawled and took over. More your style. Then you wonder why you get flamed?

As a man I'd run from you....out of the US if I had to...seems more of a stalking type behavior you have. Get some dignity and self worth. And an education.

[eminatic]

Originally Posted by thedeparted00

She carries on here eminatic about the most absurd things...to obtain attention. One I recall lurking while you wanted to kill yourself. You may not like and you may hate my opinion. Stop being a little girl. Try some real woman issues on for a change...I'd walk too from you.

Now pick your but up and act like an adult instead of a child or get some damned therapy..Maybe Evil can put this nicer then I...I despite women rather "girls" who do nonsense for attention. Why not find him and See if he wants to get married? For Christs sake.

Roll your eyes all you wish with sarcasm...fact is you are alone for reasons...think hard about that. Others are being kind...SERA tried to help...you just carried on and Brandye does not respond? Get the picture yet???

1: Learn to coherently speak English
2:that was the ONLY thread i ever started, after alot of big changes happened at once
3: LOTS of people vent on this board about similar things and don't get flamed. i am sick of everyone jumping on this ****ing bandwagon of flaming me for doing THE SAME **** AS HALF THE PEOPLE ON HERE.
4: what the **** does Brandye not responding to a thread have to do with anything?