how to help a guy not cum to fast.. (not a double post)

[stormyxoasis]

i know there is another thread similar to this but i didnt want to hijack, for my situation and question is a little bit dif. I am dating a new guy and we just had sex for the 1st time. It was fun and i enjoyed it but there was a problem, 10 secs into intercouse he came all inside me. Now i kinda expected this becuase he is 17 (almost 18) and he has only had sex once...4 yrs ago. So i am aware that more than likely this problem can be fix by more sex lol however, i could tell it bothered him alot and i want to help him learn how to last and enjoy himslef without being self concious. Does anyone have any suggestions on how to approach the issue with ideas to help without sounding like im saying hes not good enough. Because he has the equipment he just needs to learn how to use. (of course i would never tell him that lol)

[oedipussy]

Well, I guess you could try being really bad in bed...

Other than that, there's nothing you can do. This is his problem...

[stormyxoasis]

well i dont want to do that....plus i really like this guy and i dont plan on going anywhere so really its kinda my problem too and i wanna help. Ive had ALOT more exereince than him ( im 5 yrs older) so im sure theres something i can do....right?

[oedipussy]

Well what kind of help do you think you can give him? This is his penis, not your's. I guess you could try the whole "squeeze" thing, but that probably works about as well as clicking your heels three times and wishing really hard...

5 years older? OK - this whole thing is a tad too weird for me...

[stormyxoasis]

lol weird lol nah... he turns 18 next month. And his parents are fine with us and so are our friends so it really no big deal to us.

but because of my experience i know that i could change positions and tactics or be playful something that could help prolong him, but i dont want to act bossy or condescending. and i was wondering if anyone had any experience dealing with guy on such a intimate issue.

[big_wierd_one]

Why on earth is a 5 year age difference wierd...bloomin heck are we still in the dark ages or something.

stormyxoasis

You go for it, you sound like a decent and caring person, caring enough to worry about his feelings. I was the same at that age...its like that joke in American Pie really.

By the way...for what its worth, my wife is 13 years older than me....and we just celebrated our 12th Anniversary/

[Brandye]

In my teen years, dating men of similar age, I always jacked them off during foreplay. There is always more where that came from! That slowed them down.

You may also want to do a search on "squeeze technique." If the woman is on top, she has control and can stop and squeeze once in a while.

Then there is the4 "ladies first" movement and you do not have to worry about how long he lasts.

[Ducy]

Or....Sit him down...or tie him up (your choice) and say look...im going to teach you how to last longer even if I have to ride you all night...More than likely he will cum right then and there and will last longer for round two (I know this would happen for me haha)

You could also direct him to this site...I mean have him read about how someone can enjoy sex without orgasm, or how to use his tongue and fingers in place of his penis up until you come

[Emily69]

Originally Posted by Brandye

In my teen years, dating men of similar age, I always jacked them off during foreplay. There is always more where that came from! That slowed them down.

You may also want to do a search on "squeeze technique." If the woman is on top, she has control and can stop and squeeze once in a while.

Then there is the4 "ladies first" movement and you do not have to worry about how long he lasts.

Only do positions where you are in control and stop regularly, also let him try to concentrate on other things instead of the sex itself.

[EvilEvilKitten]

Oh go ahead and be bossy! By that I mean tell him he can ONLY orgasm after he asks and you give him permission to orgasm. Make a kinky sex interlude out of it. That way you CONTROL the actions, the positions - the whole show! And he gets the education he needs.

Another technique is to have him warn you so you can stop. That's being nice. If you need to bring out heavier weapons, when he warns you, give him a hickey whereever you happen to be at that point. The pain should prove distracting but it may not.

Alternatively you could just see how many times you can MAKE him orgasm in 45 minutes flat using various techniques. Intercourse, fellatio, intercourse, fellatio..repeat as needed. The more exhausted you make him - the harder it will be for him to orgasm. He might enjoy being turned into a quivering puddle of protoplasm.

All of these work very well - I have tested them.