New girlfriend?

[Insomnia]

I started dating this girl a couple of weeks ago and before that we were pretty good friends (we liked each other for a while before dating). I've talked to her about sex before (in general) and she knows that I am not a virgin and that she is. She's okay with having sex at some point in our relationship and I also would love to. The only problem is I used to be wild and crazy and sleep around with a bunch of people. I am very ashamed of this (she knows about these implications) but I've never had sex while sober. I was just wondering if anybody had any input?

[sera300]

What you did with past partners you keep to yourself. Do not enter into this discussion w/her. It creates averse feelings and its just bad practice. So have it sober...when ready.

[Insomnia]

Thanks, but I already spoke about it with her before we were in a relationship :P but i explained to her my feelings about it. I guess I'm nervous about having sober sex?

[Brandye]

That is your problem. What are you going to do about it?

[Insomnia]

I'm not really sure...any suggestions?

[machine_rat]

Do you have a fear of intimacy and feel the need to loosen yourself up a bit? Or is it that your only form of social recreation is drinking?

You're just going to have to try it out sober, like with all things you'll get better with practice.

[Insomnia]

Yeah, that's probably it. Er, the former, machine rat.

Okay, thanks for the advice everyone

[EvilEvilKitten]

Are you ashamed of having had sex or are you ashamed of having had drunken sex?

Because there is nothing wrong with NOT being a virgin.
If you're worried about your performance, read around the forum, and THINK having sex through. Visualize in your mind what to do when and how.

Next STOP drinking! Your 'performance' will be totally worthless if you cannot limit your intake.

Learn to keep your mouth shut. Your past is YOUR business, no one else's. That sort of disclosure comes much later in a relationship. Talking about it to her now only made you look NEEDY and gave a boost to her female/mother fantasies of 'saving the poor little boy'. So, man or mouse?

Bottom line:
If you're going to indulge in adult fun; you had better be adult about it.

[Insomnia]

I'm ashamed of having drunken sex.

But yeah, I don't drink anymore.

And thanks