single again

[T0M2k1]

alryt people, i broke up wi my gf of 2 and half years 2 mnths ago,ive taken abit of time to myself and i want to meet someone else but everytime i go out and get chatting to some bird it turns out they have a boyfriend or some crap. i really click with some of them and have a laugh but birds that dont have boyfriends i cnt seem to click with them? any advice?

[sera300]

Learning to flirt is good. Best yet is spell out what you want, here, so we can help you. It's tough to read. I suggest stop flirting with Birds and try women.

Honestly, look around even those who have a s/o usually have a friend who is in need of male company. This is the way it goes; many are spoken for and others you just find by trying and persistence.

[Brandye]

1. Stop thinking of us as "birds."We, too, are people.
2. Learn how to express yourself in more or less standard English.
3. Keep looking; these things are not instantaneous.

[EvilEvilKitten]

Where to begin....hmmmm.
Stop being a boy. "Birds" etc indicate someone not yet full-grown.
Stand up straight. Talk like a sensible person. Act confident yet not arrogant. Do not rush and do not push - if she wants you she'll let you know.
Do not touch her during conversation until she has touched you first.
Don't stare at her. Don't crowd her. Keep your conversation light, short, and sweet. Then go away until next time.

[maupassant]

Originally Posted by Brandye

1. Stop thinking of us as "birds."We, too, are people.
2. Learn how to express yourself in more or less standard English.
3. Keep looking; these things are not instantaneous.

I agree Brandye with your dislike of the derog terms for ladies/women. 'Birds' is probably the most unmerited term, but I also don't like 'dolly' 'sheila' (Oz), 'piece of skirt'.....oh am I old-fashioned I wonder???

[Emily69]

I don't think any lady likes to be called a bird.

[sera300]

Originally Posted by Emily69

I don't think any lady likes to be called a bird.

Especially a Vulture! Overall some terms are plain degrading. Much could be said about men but its just not nice, if we refrain they can too!

[Voodoo Sex Doll]

I agree with the slang... not very shiek if you're really looking for a relationship and not a quick one nighter....

One suggestion... stop looking in bars (if that's where you've been going)... Identify the activities that you like best.. start participating in them where they are publicly organized... for example, we have a great natural reserve here, where people who like hiking, camping, etc... can sign up individually to join in organized, group activities. You may just find yourself surprised at the number of single folks in those groups. And, when you are true to yourself and stick to the things that you like best, you will really be able to find someone that shares similar interests... without the fakey, fakey first meeting... "yah, I like that, too"...

If you can't think of an activity that you like enough to join a group for,,, well then... I don't know what else I can tell you.

Just remember to be yourself... If she doesn't like you for who you are, your relationship will be doomed from the start, especially when you start off on faulse pretenses.

[EvilEvilKitten]

Women make up 53% of the population - you can meet them anywhere and everywhere - even in bars.

Just get out there!

[constantlylearning]

Never force the issue. Sit back, evaluate and decide which direction
to proceed in. Voodoo has some good points about mutual interests.
I would not say that is paramount but a good beginning. Keep your eyes
open and pay attention and you will find many opportunities. The health
clubs, social engagements, airports etc you never know when you will
meet someone nice. Good Luck.