Buying a girl a drink...

[racn2fast]

My fiance and I go out with a group of friends frequently. It seems like every time we go out the same guy in the group buys my fiance at least a drink or two and some shots each night. Normally, she doesn't drink a whole lot but if he buys them, she keeps drinking.

Then when we go home she is too tired to do anything because she drank too much.

Do I have a legitamit reason to be mad? Why doesn't she just tell him no thanks?

any thoughts?

[Ducy]

She may drink them because she feels guilty for him buying the drinks...

Ask her about it. I mean is she flirting with him? or is she like getting "friendly" with him when you all go out?

Dont be confrontational or like paranoid, just matter-o-factly. Because Your fiance may be trying to be nice by drinking it all, and he may be trying to be friendly.

[racn2fast]

This guy is the life of the party. He is always telling stories, joking around, or in the spotlight somehow. He doesn't buy anyone else drinks, but is always concerned if my fiance has something to drink.

Normally when just me and her go out we have 1 or 2 drinks casually and call it a night. Tonight she had 5 and I know my bill only covered two of them...

I don't think she flirts with him but she can't seem to tell him no. There was one night she drank so many of his drinks/shots that she felt like crap the whole next day and I had to put up with it because she couldn't say, "no thanks."

[curious_woman]

Wow she needs to grow a set and tell him to back the hell off. I know if someone bought my man a drink and he accepted I would be hella pissed. And vise versa.

[sera300]

Just pull him aside prior to going out and tell him, you appreciate his doing this and he is unintentionally putting a crimp in your personal life [sex]. I'd think not to much about it...if there are 5 drinks her bought 3...maybe he thought he was doing you a favor getting married & all...keep in on a friendly & jokingly level....you be the Alpha male though...

He is your friend...you do it. Do not put her in the middle. She may not wish to compromise the relationship between the two of you.

[EvilEvilKitten]

This is silly. She doesn't have to SAY anything. All she has to do is NOT DRINK them. He'll not buy her another drink if she just lets it sit there and go to waste. There is NO rule saying you MUST accept drinks. Just say "Thank you." to the man and then ignore the drink. His mentioning the drink later would be RUDE so just ignore any subsequent "what about that drink I got you" comments.

(having superb manners makes a formidable arsenal)

[machine_rat]

Is your wife the reserved one of the group? Does this guy feel that buying her drinks allows her to come out of her shell around him and others as well? This could also be a way for him to show off how 'not poor' he is.

[racn2fast]

Machine I think you hit the nail on the head! She is very reserved and laid back. And the guy does like to flaunt his money.

Thanks for the feedback everyone!