Mismatched Sex Drives?

[Gabby]

I have been seeing my girlfriend for three months now and can´t get enough sex! Due to work I can only stay over three or four nights a week, though we met up and have lunch or coffee, too.

When I stay over, however she doesn´t always want sex, often she wants to watch a film and just "kiss and cuddle", this is particularly frustrating when she´s just wearing her knickers and a nightie. I don´t want to nag her or pressurise her, but it´s very frustrating - especially when I have been thinking about her all day.

When we were dating, she made me wait two months before she´d go to bed with me and it has occurred to me that she just has a lower se drive than me as she does enjoy sex and I always try to make sure she orgasms (cunnilingus and a vibrator) before I penetrate her.

I have talked about it with her, but she just says sometimes she´s not in the mood. I´m very highly sexed however and could have it three times a day, everyday - but we actually have it twice a week. I love her to bits and treat her like a princess, but I´m sex-starved.

Any advice? More cold showers I suppose?

[dancingdoc2]

That and masturbation.

You're young. You're horny. You're in a new relationship that exudes romance or lust. You're in a typical situation and will have to learn to deal with it.

I have a problem with the statement "she made me wait". This is not all about you.

She may or may not have a lower sex drive. Most couples do have differences, so climb down off your high horse and be a bit more realistic. Adults negotiate a frequency that they can both be happy with.

Women often desire kissing, cuddling, and snuggling, for the intimacy instead of sex for sex sake. Learn to make love this way, it will help with full blown sex when it is time for that.

Ask her if she'd be willing to give you a hand job and/or oral instead of intercourse once in a while. She will get what she desires, you will get your rocks off in a loving way. Sex is not what we do to each other; rather, what we do with and for each other. It is an outward expression of the love we have for each other. It is not the only way to express this. Learn to be versatile and follow her lead. If she desires intimacy, learn how to fill her cup until it runs over without smothering her.

[EvilEvilKitten]

And it sounds like you need further sexual education as well as what Doc said.
From the sounds of it your penetration skills are not up to par. She should be having orgasms more than once. Are you caressing her G-Spot with your glans? Are you caressing her posterior fornix with your glans? Are you alternating between the two after each orgasm? If not, why not?
Review the sticky posts The Program and Body Worship.

From the sounds of it, she does NOT want this relationship to be "all about sex". This does not indicate a low sex drive- it indicates a lack of trust, not necessarily of you, but of men in general. "They only want one thing." So to get 'there' you need to prove to her that it is NOT just about sex between you two - by demonstratig self-control and consideration for her.