New Relationship

[CollegeBachelor]

Hi Everyone, I need some advice.

I am a sophomore in college and I am beginning to start a relationship with a freshman girl. She is a virgin and just got out of a 2 and a half year high school relationship. She wants to take things slow, but too slow for me. Nothing beyond kissing. I am not the kind of guy that likes random hook-ups, I'd rather have a relationship than meaningless sex. It seems that I am one of those few guys. I've only had sex once and it felt meaningless to me because it was a random hookup. She said that she wants to wait till marriage for sex, but I hope she changes her mind because I don't think I can wait that long. Hopefully some of you can give me some relationship advice. We go on winter break soon and I won't be seeing her for a whole month. She said that she needs time to think about it. What should I do?

Sincerely,
Confused College Bachelor

[demonbuttercup]

I mean dating different girls doesn't mean you are just doing random hookups. It can still have meaning... just don't have random one nite stands.

If this chick was in a 2 yr relationship and didn't lose her Virginity?!?! Then she's more than likely very serious about her decision to wait.. you know?

Plus, she just got out of a relationship... so she probably doesn't really know what she wants.

I would continue to be her friend... and date...but don't shut out other opportunities.

[EvilEvilKitten]

Sex does NOT mean LOVE. The two are entirely different items. Sex is physical and love is emotional. But sex is NEVER meaningless. Think about it - you just shared yourself with another who shared herself with you. How could that possibly be meaningless? Didn't you learn anything from the encounter?

You had sex once and you're a college sophmore - you left it a bit late, buddy, and I'm sure your skills in this area are next to nil so stop thinking you're a prize too good for a "random hook-up".

I'm saying this because your post is ALL ABOUT YOU. "She said that she wants to wait till marriage for sex, but I hope she changes her mind because I don't think I can wait that long." So she's to let her principles go just because you can't wait. Somehow her sacrifice of her principles would invest this sex with meaning. Yeah. The meaning would be that you're a louse.

So what should you do? You should get over yourself and this hangup you have about sex being "meaningless" and date as many women as you can talk into it. That way you'll grow up and gain skills that will keep your future wife from yawning in bed.

[machine_rat]

Getting the chance to finally have sex with somebody who first had to spend weeks "thinking about it" is rarely that rewarding. Unless of course you only care about yourself. Who knows, maybe it would lighten her up as a person, but she'd probably be filled with regret in the end.