Gf wont have sex with me

[dac5039]

I got into this relationship because I really like the girl, not for sex. If i was that horny I wouldnt bother with a relationship. Shes a virgin and told me she would have sex but needed a committment. But now its been months and im disappointed every time. Shes religious and I totally understand that, being raised catholic. She goes to church and all but gets wasted on the weekends, so i dont know how much that is true more than just an excuse. I was and still am willing to give her time to get totally comfortable with me, but ive been comfortable for months now. How long is too long?

[demonbuttercup]

Originally Posted by dac5039

but ive been comfortable for months now. How long is too long?

Its not about how comfortable YOU are.. it's her.

I mean it could be an excuse but on the other hand.. if you care for her.. you won't mind.
How long is "months"???

Also, do you do other stuff?? like practice heavy petting? oral sex? handjobs? etc......

I was a virgin for a long time.... not exactly for religious reasons.. just never was comfortable and found the right person... I did however do just about every drug in the book LOL.... to me... one doesn't lend to the other.

[HardNgood]

that is why you date...now dump her if you really want to get laid BEFORE marriage!

[tommy_tucker]

do you talk about sex with her?

[EvilEvilKitten]

It is NOT all about you!

You say you like her as a friend and that it is not just sex - yeah. Right. But all you want to know about is "how do I get my penis into her vagina without marrying her first". Answer is: you DON'T.

You NEVER pressure a girl to sacrifice her principles just so you can get your "dick wet" unless you want her and all of her friends and family to think you're a louse, a cad, a bastard, and something that crawled out from under an extremely slimy rock.

There's nothing wrong with wanting or not wanting sex with any particular person. But when you begin making DEMANDS and asking for sacrifices, then you're moving into "needs a ass-kicking" territory.

Do you want her to regret even knowing you? Do you want her to think of you as "a mistake"? Do you want to make it harder for the next guy? Men complain about bitter women and yet refuse to acknowledge that women get bitter because of self-centered bastards like you.

If you're serious, you wait as long as it takes.
If you're not serious then you get out and stop wasting her time.

[wet_suit_one]

Yeah buddy, what EEK said.

Jeez, just propose already and get married and carry on.

And I am not joking.

You know what she wants, you know what you want, so s**t or get off the pot.

Seems like that is the deal you have got.

It's a pretty fair one if you ask me.

The Wet One

[machine_rat]

Well how close are the two of you to having sex? Have you done everything EXCEPT that, or are you waiting for all the bases as well as the homerun to come in one night? Are the two of you in [acknowledged] exclusive relationships with eachother, or is it more of dating relationship?

If you really want to be having sex then you need to be seeing other girls. Besides, you said that she gets wasted every weekend, so who's to say that her first 'drunken mistake' won't be with some other guy.

[Gabby]

Originally Posted by EvilEvilKitten

It is NOT all about you!

You say you like her as a friend and that it is not just sex - yeah. Right. But all you want to know about is "how do I get my penis into her vagina without marrying her first". Answer is: you DON'T.

You NEVER pressure a girl to sacrifice her principles just so you can get your "dick wet" unless you want her and all of her friends and family to think you're a louse, a cad, a bastard, and something that crawled out from under an extremely slimy rock.

There's nothing wrong with wanting or not wanting sex with any particular person. But when you begin making DEMANDS and asking for sacrifices, then you're moving into "needs a ass-kicking" territory.

Do you want her to regret even knowing you? Do you want her to think of you as "a mistake"? Do you want to make it harder for the next guy? Men complain about bitter women and yet refuse to acknowledge that women get bitter because of self-centered bastards like you.

If you're serious, you wait as long as it takes.
If you're not serious then you get out and stop wasting her time.

I think you're being a bit hard on the guy. Where does he say he is making demands?

Given that 'Shes a virgin and told me she would have sex but needed a committment' and 'now its been months and im disappointed every time', I think the guy's asking what commitment she wants and how long he should wait.

If the girl really is only willing to have sex after marriage then she should be straight with him. One doesn't need to be married to be committed to another, and as he says she doesn't seem to have particularly strong religious conviction. In this instance I would consider commitment to mean, to use an American phrase 'going steady'.

Now he's being a little vague saying 'months' as that could mean anywhere between 2 and 11 as far as I am concerned.

As for him wanting to get his 'dick wet' as you put it, of course he does. I actually think some women don't understand how strong the male sex drive is. I think about sex all the time...

[Sweetness12]

Either Way, she may just be threading him along to see how long he can deal with it. I did that to the guy i lost mine to. We dated for 2 years before i even remotely let him even TOUCH me...
I was scared and maybe she is too....

[Sweetness12]

Originally Posted by wet_suit_one

Yeah buddy, what EEK said.

Jeez, just propose already and get married and carry on.

And I am not joking.

You know what she wants, you know what you want, so s**t or get off the pot.

Seems like that is the deal you have got.

It's a pretty fair one if you ask me.

The Wet One

Being married to someone should not depend on whether or not they want to have sex with you. It should be more than that and marrying someone just to f**k them is NOT the right reason at all.