Oh what to do???

[xkatex]

Well long story short this is how it goes. A friend and I were drinking at a party and this guy showed up. I ended up going to sleep before really talking to him(first time i met him) But my friend has known him for a while. He dorve her home that night and I guess she tried to kiss...etc and was shut down. Fast forward to now. Before this party she had broken up wit her bf of 8months. She is now dating a new guy (a crappy one in my opinon) but claims to still have feelings for her ex. Ive been hanging with the guy from the party and we get along great...alot better then I expected. Ive brought up my friend in a convo and basically the convo told me he has no intentions of ever being with her.

Now before this my friend said she liked him then went for another guy after being shut down numerous times. Now ive been in this situation before and decided to talk to her about it. She started off saying she didnt care just ive told her before that he might be too old for her and thats the only thing that bugs her about it. Then she went on saying how she thinks hes a loser then started saying she still likes him, then said shes just confused and then ended with she didnt care.

Now I know this is a bit confusing its very very hard to explain but basically what I wanted to know is "Am I in the wrong here?" I know my guy has no intentions of ever being with my friend. My friend has a new bf (a guy shes wanted for a while). One minute she doesnt care and the next she does. Whats your opinions here? Am I doing the wrong thing? Is she just mad cause I got a guy that she wanted and couldnt have? Does she really not care? Does she care alot?

...and please try to word it in a nice way

[EvilEvilKitten]

And you're discussing your sex life with anyone other than him - why?

She's upset because she sees herself as being 'rejected'. Of course. This is nothing to do with you. This is her issue alone. Even your fellow should have nothing to do with this. This happens. In time, she'll learn to deal with it.

Meanwhile, learn to NOT discuss your sex life with anyone who is not a participant. Thus avoiding this sort of thing in the future.

[sera300]

If you wish to discuss sex with someone other then the one you are with...chat here & with no one else. Your sex life is only between the two involved...or among the threesomes. No one else other then active participants....

[browneyedgirl]

I agree, this is her thing. You aren't doing anything wrong. You want to go out with a guy who she once tried to kiss and was rejected by. If he had wanted to be with her in any way, he would have at least kissed her back. That didn't even happen after a party when he drove her home. So it is totally safe to assume that he has no interest in being with her ever. She is with someone else now and she NEVER HAD ANYTHING with your guy, so she should not care. If she does, that is her problem and she's being immature. You have nothing to worry about.

[machine_rat]

Some people choose to show resentment towards somthing that they aren't a part of. It's kind of like that single guy on the edge of the dance floor, poking fun at all the other people dancing away. His anger is focused on the participants because he didn't have the a girl to dance with.