Teen Girlfriend. Is she lying?

[jackle]

I have been with my girlfriend for some time now and unfortunately i do not feel she has been completely truthful with me about her sexual history. I am still a beginner and my knowledge/experience are limited. when fingering my girlfriend i have found that i could easily fit two fingers. She has claimed to be a virgin. My question is, is this possible? should i simply accept this and assume she is being truthful or should i doubt her? Please help.
Thank you,
Jackle

[dancingdoc2]

Hello Jackle, and welcome to the SI101 Board and its Forums. I hope you are enjoying the site. Please begin by reading the Posting Guidelines forum at the top of the main screen as well as the Index, also up there at the top.

> i do not feel she has been completely truthful with me about her sexual history.

Here are some rules for the road of love.

Unless and until you have more than a feeling that someone is not telling the truth, then we should operate under the assumption that what they are telling us is the truth. If you want to build trust, this is the major approach.

Her past is her business, not yours, not the next guy's. If she chooses to share it with you, fine, if not, do not get upset about being "honest" and wanting to tell each other everything. If things in her past are not relevant to the present, then do not concern yourself with them.

What you want to do is to build a future from the day you met. When it comes to thing romantic and someone possibly having more experience than another--or not, please read this article:

HELP! S/He is more EXPERIENCED! To which I say:

> I am still a beginner and my knowledge/experience are limited.

Not to worry. Read the article.

> when fingering my girlfriend i have found that i could easily fit two fingers. She has claimed to be a virgin. My question is, is this possible?

Absolutely, positively, indubitably, yes!
* A person's vaginal opening can be stretched because she has exercised it so it will be more pliable.
* It can be compliant because she uses Tampons
* It can be stretchable because she uses dildos

> when fingering my girlfriend i have found that i could easily fit two fingers. She has claimed to be a virgin. My question is, is this possible?

Asked and answered. Do not worry or fret or be unhappy should she not be a virgin. Read the article, then get on about the business of your relationship and making it all you can be. This is what should concern you.

[sera300]

Trust in a relationship goes a very long way; it's more relevant and enduring than a persons sexual [or lack of] past. You both need to be trusting of the other & without that basis you have no foundation to build a future relationship upon. Sex is not the issue; it's the trust you must have to continue as a couple.

[Brandye]

Your finding her vaginal opening to be loose means nothing more than she uses tampons or has been a bit athletic or fell on a bicycle top bar or some such. Grow up a bit before continuing with a sexual relationship.

[Ephemera]

Wow, shouldn't you be asking her this?

And if she yells and breaks up with you, serves you right.

Why is her sexual history important to you?

[cjb1981]

Originally Posted by Ephemera

Wow, shouldn't you be asking her this?

And if she yells and breaks up with you, serves you right.

Why is her sexual history important to you?

^Chill... most people ask, most people don't have a problem giving an honest answer. Though, I do happen to agree with you that it shouldn't matter, so I don't ask. She answered him, so she must not have a problem with it either.

-Jackle, if the only "proof" that you have that she's not a virgin, is that you can fit 2 figures into her vagina, then you have no proof at all. I don't think that sexual history is important, so long as you are reasonably sure that the person you are with is free of an std. Therefore, the real problem isn't if she's a virgin or not, it's if she's lying to you, and why you don't trust her. If she had sex with 10 guys, and she told you that she had sex with 10 guys, then no problem. But, if she's had sex with 10 guys and told you that she's a virgin, then she's a liar. If a person is willing to lie about sexual history, there really isn't anything that they won't lie about. On the other hand, she gave you an answer, and you don't believe her. If you don't trust her, why on earth would you want to be with her? Either you're over reacting and in the wrong...or, she's lying and in the wrong.

[THQMA5]

lol if shes more experianced ask her what shes likes ect you could play it to your advantage.

[browneyedgirl]

Agreed with the rest - it means nothing. Trust her.

[EvilEvilKitten]

OMG, jackle! This lady should drop you immediately! She has given you no cause to doubt her and yet, in your insecurity, you leap immediately to to the conclusion she is lying to you about her past experience. The issue is not about her - it is about YOU.
Learn this now - your insecurity will lead you to always doubt your lady, who will get tired of being 'third -degreed' over every damn thing and she'll walk. You are on a path that will poison each and every relationship you will ever have IF you do not stop now.

1. she is NOT your property
2. you have no rights here unless she gives them to you
3. until you have concrete proof - accept
4. think before you speak - you may find yourself saying the wrong things
5. the past is, frankly, none of your business

How would you feel if she doubted your word? How would you feel if she dogged your steps wanting to know each and every detail of how you spent your time, when, where, with whom, and why? How would you feel if she investigated your past?

Always put yourself in the other person's position before you go making assumptions.

[sera300]

Evil: You mean we are not "chattel" any longer, LOL!!! Even married women were "freed" in 1965 (year???); their paycheck was their property & not their spouses!