How to break up in this situation?

[Jiffylube854]

I've been dating this girl for about 6 weeks. We're not exclusive. We've been out oh, maybe 8 times. We had sex on the 4th date, but after that she just got totally nuts... always telling me how much she likes me, calling me at least 1x/day, emailing me and texting me multiples times per day. Buying me small things whenever she sees me. It's overwhelming. It's like the fun, flirtatious girl just disappeared and now she's just really, really into me - far more than I am into her.

For this and a few other reasons, I don't want to continue the relationship. I've never really been in this situation before, when the girl likes me WAY more than I like her so early on.

How do I break up in this situation? I plan to call her.

[eminatic]

dont do it over a text.
was she a virgin? that may explain why she went "nuts" after having sex =\

[dancingdoc2]

Well, years ago I had a friend that was this way. We were just beginning to date, did not become intimate, yet when I began showing more interest in her she reacted overwhelmingly as you stated. I cut it off. It was way to uncomfortable for me. I do not know why a few react this way; my guess is that it has something to do with an over reaction. She/they may be insecure and when shown some attention, they want to make sure they show their appreciation and shower you with attention in return, albeit with much more intensity than what you/I gave.

Older, and maybe a bit more introspective, now, and if you want to try and salvage the relationship, you might just tell her that you like her and that it is obvious she likes you, however, she does not have to try so hard to show interest. In other words, ask her to dial it back a bit, and why and in what manner. If she doesn't, then you can break it off. If you believe it is better to do it now, then either way, just chat with her briefly and tell her that you are not a match and are going to move on. Then do. This is supposed to be how dating works.

You cannot not hurt a person doing this, although, you can try to let them down gently. People will be sad or hurt and you must understand that this is human nature. We get over these things.

[browneyedgirl]

Tell her the truth - that you feel like she likes you more than you like her, and you aren't ready for anything serious yet. Tell her that you like to take things slow and it scares you how fast paced the relationship is.

[sera300]

Just tell her you think she is a nice lady & needs time to experience life; you are not ready for a relationship such as she is seeking. Period. End of it....then RUN! Seriously, no contact with her afterwards.

[cjb1981]

You may want to be a little more choosy with who you have sex with early on. Some people are absolutely crazy. A guy I knew in high school had sex with a seeming normal girl after a few dates. She went crazy for him, basically the same situation you're in now. She started showing up at his job and home. He told her, politely that he didn't want to see her anymore, and it worked out. We found out later that a guy dumped her at her old school and she bet the hell out of him with a baseball bat! I'm not trying to scare you, just inform you. As has been said by the post above, NICELY tell her that you just aren't ready, and be on guard. And Sera made a great point, afterwards, NO CONTACT!

[EvilEvilKitten]

You two have gone on 8 dates. You had sex on Date #4. She's going "nuts" and yet you have been on 4 more dates with her after this?

This is what you tell her. As much as you like her, you want to continue playing and intend to go on dating as many people as you can talk into it. You DO have to do this in person. That is all you have to say. Do not apologise. Do not compromise.

Then it is up to HER to decide if she wants to continue with you or leave you for another relationship.

[Sweetness12]

Sounds like a crazy person.. I've been in that situation though.....The 2nd guy I ever slept with I became obsessive over him... not so much him. The guy I lost my v-card to wasn't that high up on my list and I broke up with him... So... it could just be you.. I don't know how to explain anything in this problem really...

Hard to explain, No?

[EvilEvilKitten]

Not really, no.

[xkatex]

Basically from now on...do NOT accept gives from her...TRY to avoid most physcial contact...do NOT offer physical contact...etc. If she asks you at any point "What wrong?" say "I think we are taking things too fast" and continue from there. If she doesnt ask and she continues to cling to you gentle nudge her off. Make it obvious but not rude and either she'll take the hint or she will ask the "whats wrong" question.

During the conversation (to make it easier for her sake) Say things like "Your a really nice girl but all these gifts and stuff are too much for me" "I think we are taking things really too fast and I think we should take a break and see other people" Make it bitter sweet. Let her know your point and where your coming from....but dont make it seem like its all her fault (for her sake again) She may be a very emotion person and saying "can you back off your too clingy" Make scar her for life

Have fun!