How to win her over - Give your input on this situation.

[koncadonk]

Ok so I used to work with this girl and she is amazing, she has looks, brains and a huge heart. Ive had a crush on her for forever and she always is flirty with me. A few days ago I told her how I felt. She said that she feels the same way but she has a boyfriend. She told me she dosent know what to do now. She says half her heart is with me and the other half is with her bf. Ive known her for about 8 months and I would kill to be with her because she is exactly my type!

I need some help on how to win her over her bf or how she can notice how much better off she would be with me. (Who is an *******, Plus i know i can treat her right)

[sera300]

Leave it be, continue to be yourself, let her make the choice....she need to stand up for what she wants. You will not win someone over who you already do not have...if not with you/she needs to make the move not you. You are done other than being nice....

[browneyedgirl]

I agree wholeheartedly with Sera. This is her decision, there's not a lot you can do. Just be nice and understanding, and don't put too much pressure on her.

[bluetide76]

Part of me agrees with both these ladies and part of me seems to not accept that response. Like I understand how you need to give her the choice and let her pursue you, but also after both of you expressing how you feel for one another it adds complication. What about his feelings? She told him that half her heart is with him, does that mean in a friendly way or more? Personally I wouldn't do anything to steal her or push on her, but at the same time I wouldn't sit around waiting for her to be like, "ok I decided I will take you now." Give it a little time and don't push, if she still hasnt given you any consideration or anything then move on the best you can. Always look at things if the rolls were reversed.

[EvilEvilKitten]

Let her go. She has to 'step up' now and make a decision. Backing off does NOT imply giving up. It means standing there, but not for too long, saying "what are you waiting for?". I'd give her 4 months and then, if she's not with you, give up on her.

[machine_rat]

If her current boyfriend really isn't a nice guy, then I'm sure soon enough she will come to see how much more you have to offer.

Then again she could be one of those girls that are drawn to the bad boys.

[Jiffylube854]

Whatever you do, don't kowtow, tell her much you like her, etc. Continue to be flirty and create sexual tension. Then ask her out. She already likes you it sounds like, now you need to make her hot enough to WANT you. After that...it's a done deed.

[dancingdoc2]

I disagree with you as do the rest of the posters. Informing her that he likes her is fine. After that, just he should stay out of her way. If she decides after a time to change boyfriends, and likes the potential she sees in him, then she will let him know.

Dating is all about meeting and going out with lots of people before narrowing the playing field to one or two. Dating is not exclusive relationships with the first warm body who expresses and interest in us. Oh! how many times have I written about all this.............