Confused

[ruboxxx]

Ignore this sorry :s

[Ducy]

Okay....

CALM DOWN. You are way to wound up over this...I mean you repeated yourself so many times...she isnt ready for a relationship...if that is the honest truth, how is someone going to steal her away from you. I mean if she wasnt ready then she wouldnt date ANYBODY! If she does get "stolen" (although she isnt your property) then she was simply trying to keep you from feeling hurt and rejected...

[Ephemera]

Honestly, I think you're in the friend-zone.

You say you've always been "there for her". That's a clear sign of FZ-syndrome.

Also, she says she likes your personality... If you're young, as I take it you are, then a girl, if she really wants you, will say all those unimportant ego-boosting things like "you're hot/cute/handsome".

No one can steal away from you what is not yours. Remember that.

I used to be in this situation all the time when I was younger.

Here's my advice to you:

She thinks (and, hell, let's not like, it's probably true) that you will treat her very well all the time without her ever actually making a commitment. That's a dangerous thing. She also doesn't want to hurt your feelings and lose you as a friend. She isn't sure what she wants.

You shouldn't wait for her. Try to date other girls, meet new people, become more confident with yourself.

Once she sees that, she'll probably want you. If not, then nothing bad has come out of the situation.

Cheers - spend time on this board, it's an invaluable resource.

[Westles]

I second what Ephemera is saying! read what he/she has said and take it on board! the more girls you date, the more confidence you build. Confidence is sexy, period.

[EvilEvilKitten]

I hate it when they go back and delete their postings!

Apparently this guy doesn't even have the courage to complain!!!

[Ducy]

Okay....His "friend" didnt want to date him. She wasnt ready for a relationship, but they would do things like hug kiss cuddle hold hands. She liked his personality and he tried to make her laugh as much as possible.


also

He said he is afraid of losing her to someone else and he really likes her (about 15 time in the matter of 5 sentences)

[EvilEvilKitten]

Ah! I see. Well, he was fulfilling the role of "preliminary teddybear", which is a male with whom a younger woman practices certain things without actually dating, etc. with him - but no, he's not a "friend". He's the transition between the stuffed plush toy teddybear to the real live 30 to 60 year old real deal teddybear.