betrayal and misled

[2beloved]

I became friends with one of my boss well he started it, he would say flirty things to me that made me feel good and that he was into me. I'm single and he's single and he always said he was looking for someone. He threw out hints all the time so I went along with those hints and started flirting back. He gave me his # which he don't give to no other employee, he gave me his email addr. which he gives to no-one, he then ask for my # to store in his phone. So we talk back and forth well I was doing all the calling because he is real busy so I did understand but one day he did call, and he did again one day again. So the other day I told him that I didn't want him to lose his job and that I like him and I would rather quit that way if we started dating it wouldnt matter because I don't work their and that I didn't want him to lose his job because of me. Well I call him back and told him that I decided not to quit and he said let's talk before you make any decisions andwe would talk soon. Well that's been 3 days now and I have call him but no return call and I did call and told him that I wasn't interest and he didn't have to worry about me calling again, well its been over 3 hours and no respond. My thought is why even flirt with me in the beginning knowing your position and then when I respond to those flirts he just don't talk to me, what should I do? I'm hurt and its hard to face him because he do come in the store. I'm not mad and I think he thinks that but he started it" okay how would you take telling someone about your b'day and his reply is " do I have to put a bow on it" as a female how would you take it, and as a male if you said that to a female what would you mean by it. I'm hurt over this because I did like him alot.

[sera300]

You got "proverbially" screwed b/c you allowed yourself to be put in a position of becoming to friendly w/your male boss. Put your head up and get over it, or find a new job---NEVER DO THAT AGAIN.

[atomic]

Well if you have called him to tell him you are not interested, what are you wanting him to do? You have no relationship with this guy besides some harmless flirting, he's hardly going to come and serenade you at your window

If you are interested, but say you aren't - you're playing about with him and not liking his lack of response.

Leave it and don't make further contact. If he is interested, he will be in touch with you. Go to work and get on with things, or as Sera said, get a new one.

[Ducy]

From a guys perspective, I think he was looking for someone to fool around with. I mean he is in a position of power, which would make him feel like he has "authority" This feeling was elevated as time went on he gained more and more control i.e. Nobody knew of you, so if someone found out, he would simply say you were trying to get a raise . He could also claim you were coming on to him since you were always calling, and phone records could prove it.

Then once you started talking about moving farther...actually dating...it pushed him away. You said you would quit so if you guys started dating and he stopped talking to you..

Can you say booty call?

[2beloved]

I agree with what you say but he just show me the ass hole that I thought he wasn't.

[2beloved]

I don't plan to ever talk to him again and if he do get in touch then I will be nice not because he's my boss, but because that's me. I don't plan to call him or email him again. I can play the game he played but I'm better than that, remember he came on to me. I'm okay and he's the past moving to the future.

[2beloved]

yes I did and I fell for it so I just hold me head up and he can kiss my behind.

[EvilEvilKitten]

In addition to holding your head up, enroll yourself in remedial English classes because your grammar is TERRIBLE!

If you want to be treated well, make sure everything about you, including your language usage, indicates that you deserve to be treated well.

Any boss who flirts with an employee is a disaster and should be avoided like the plague because he is increasing his company's liability - can you say sexual harassment lawsuit?

[2beloved]

thank you for your input kitten and we all learn from our mistakes he's more at fault than me.

[EvilEvilKitten]

True, but that does not really matter. Assigning "blame" is a fool's game - stop doing it. Remember - you're a "class act" now.

Men volunteer but women select.

Become highly selective.