Finding a girl - any suggestions for me?

[rye890]

hey everyone, i'm a 19 year old guy, gonna turn 20 in december. i've only really had one steady girlfriend and that was during my junior of high school. i'm now a sophomore in college so as you can tell the girls havn't exactly been piling up for me. anyways, i think that there are two things that keep me from finding a girl. first of all, my self-confidence fluctuates mainly because i'm very self-conscious. i'm 5'8" and 125 pounds so i;m pretty skinny and even though i work out and whatnot, i'm still not a big guy. this bothers me sometimes and keeps me from going after a girl that i might have otherwise. also, i have very high standards for the kind of girl i want. i don't want the hottest girl in town (at least i would settle for something less..lol) but i still have really high standards. to top this off, it seems like i have the worst luck ever. over this past summer a girl from my work and i started going out a couple times and it went nowhere because she happened to be my best friends's best friend. i just started a new job this month and wouldn't you know it, the most beautiful girl i've ever seen in my life works with me and we're becoming really friendly. she's literally the definition of the girl i'm looking for, both in terms of her physical appearence and her awesome personality but of course she has a boyfriend and they're really serious.

what the hell do i need to do!??!!?

[LoveGems]

well for a start, don't do anything with the girl already in a relationship, the chances are that that will just get you in trouble.

Stop looking for girls, if you go looking then your being narrow minded and just looking for what you think you want, but if you stop looking then something that takes your fancy might come your way.

Just enjoy life, go out to places that you might meet a nice girl, don't be too pushy about getting into a relationship, and eventually one will come your way.

[machine_rat]

You still have college to finish and a career to start, so don't sweat having to find the perfect girl so soon. Give those girls that are 'below your high-set bar' a chance, you may find that they're not the ditzy airhead bombshell that you make them out to be. If nothing else, the dating practice should give you the confidence that is necessary to win the type of girl that you desire.

Regular working out is only going to keep you trim and in shape. If you want to increase your mass than your going to have to hit the weights and do some strength training to increase your muscle size.

[EvilEvilKitten]

Join the wrestling team at college.
Hit the weights and be one with medium rare steak.
Learn to dance and to love doing it.

As to meeting girls - open your eyes and look around you! They're everywhere! STOP BEING PICKY. Face it, you're not "God's gift to women" so stop insisting she be "God's gift to man". You're most likely missing "yes" signals from girls left and right simply because those girls aren't getting called by Playboy and you have mentally written them off. Date as many collegegirls as you can talk into it!

If all else fails - grow taller.

[THQMA5]

lol trust me having mucsels isnt all that, as they wont see you until they take your top off, then if they dump you cause of that then there not the right girl for you.
But as every one has said open your eyes dont have standards, make stuff happen, make the girls like you.
But if you can get off with this girl good luck if you cant wait your in college and theres a bigger picture after that.

[EvilEvilKitten]

Uh-huh @ Thqmas but if he's competing with a 6 ft 4 inch monster for a girl's attention, he has to have some kind of edge even if it is just the confidence such activities bring.

[browneyedgirl]

You've admitted that having high standards is a problem for you. That's easily remedied. Get out there and start dating. Not just the most beautiful girls, but anyone. And start making friends. If you want to meet great girls, focus on meeting great people. It will be a lot more productive.