ladies need questoin answered bout kissing

[PistolSmoke]

Ok heres the deal, i recently met this really cute girl, we made out for quite some time on our first date. My buudy told me that she said i kissed badly.

IDK how i kissed badly, i didn't use much tounge, etc... I feel really subconscience now that i know i suck at it. Shes had more experiance with it then i have.

Heres my question, do girls base the guy on how he kisses? if there bad they're are turned off? and could i become better? really need help please

[dancingdoc2]

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Here is a link to some information that will begin to answer your questions.

KISSING & CARESSING--a young person's guide to EXPLORATION

Kissing as with most new things we learn requires some practicing. You may or may not have acquired a nice skill set; yet kids often prejudge actions based upon pride and prejudice. If she accepts other dates with you, I wouldn't be concerned, particularly over what is hearsay.

Some girls may rate a guy on kissing or any other whim worth gossiping about with a girlfriend. If she is genuinely affected by something you do, she will likely work with you or deal with it in order to continue the relationship.

If you believe your technique needs improving, or you just want to see how it feels, practice kissing your wrist or lower arm using it as a substitute for lips (or a frog!).

A word of caution, as noted in the reference, do not use your tongue as part of your kissing for a while.

[PistolSmoke]

is it ok to suck her bottom lip for couple sec.

[dancingdoc2]

Yes, of course it is; although, having said that, my recommendation is not to until you are well into a relationship and have established a "history". Tonguing, French kissing, and sucking are much too invasive (into her "space") in the beginning of any relationship in my never to be so humble opinion. I know you want to be kind, considerate, and a gentlemen, yet part of this is in knowing ground rules and etiquette.

Also, the steps in making out should be progressive. This means that you work up to "C", by first introducing "A", then moving to "B", each with a bit more intimacy. If and when the time comes to gently apply some suction to the bottom or top lip, begin with a gentle kiss of that area, first. You can gently kiss one or more times then apply a bit of suction as a part of the kissing process. These progressive actions hold true for all the other things you do, later and are especially important when involving her breasts and beginning the process of undressing. Ya just don't grab on and have your way with one; nor do you just get naked. As for the latter: all in due time.

[PistolSmoke]

thanks for the info, im just afriad that she'll not want to date me, or she might not "like" me if i suck at it, i mean, I KNOW i wasn't that, i know i was tensed up a bit, but i didn't suck like a fish and stick my tongue down her throat. IDK, im worried cuz i really like her and cuz shes really pretty girl i stress way to hard on making it right, maybe thats y im "doing bad"

[princessss]

its a really big turn off if a guy is a bad kisser sorry! one thing that really puts me off is a "wet" kisser! when you need to dry your face with a towel after! euughh too much saliva horrid!!

[PistolSmoke]

i mean really? how can you be bad at kissing??? i didn't stick my tongue down her throat, its wasn't sloppy, and i was at pace with her, i just don't know

[princessss]

i dunno.. maybe she wanted to stick ur tongue down her throat?! lol
oh but theres defiently bad kissers out there!!! not good!

[PistolSmoke]

yea i hung out with her today and she told me what she liked and i performed!! lol. so i guess i wasn't bad after all.

so if she starts grabing me and pulling my hair toward her face and geting really physical during a kiss i guess i was doing good

[VanellaSchnella]

Originally Posted by PistolSmoke

yea i hung out with her today and she told me what she liked and i performed!! lol. so i guess i wasn't bad after all.

so if she starts grabing me and pulling my hair toward her face and geting really physical during a kiss i guess i was doing good

In my life I have learned that being assertive and communicating are needed to excel at many different things; looks like it's appliable to kissing too.