I want him soo bad

[KMB]

He feels the same way about me. We have been Best friends for a while. But we are both worried we won't make it very long in a relationship. He is busy a lot of the time. I have a lot of feelings for him. I know we are only 16 but I want to be with him forever. It's hard to know if it's best to wait or get together and see what happends from there.

He is really sweet and caring to me. I can't help myself but I just want him really bad.

[tommy_tucker]

is it love that is there is just a really good friendship?

[sera300]

If you want sex so be it; do it safely, using proper birth control, and read around here so you have an idea what you are doing. If you do decide not to then no concerns. However, do not feel a sexual encounter will cause you to be together forever.

[KMB]

I will really protect myself from getting pregnant, I mean I do want children but not now.


I just have to talk to my boyfriend about this.

[Brandye]

Go to "Sexual Health: Women" and read "Am I Ready?"

And are you really certain you know how to protect yourself?

[KMB]

I'm certain a little, I know I should have BC if I don't want kids and not get STDs.

I still got a lot to learn but this site is helping me a great deal with that.


I'm going to read everything I can.

[Brandye]

"certain a little" is not adequate. Get every pamphlet available on birth control for Planned Parenthood, your local clinic and on-line. When a woman takes a penis into her, there is ALWAYS a chance of pregnancy. Nothing is absolute.

The best available over the counter is a condom on him and spermicidal jelly in you. The two of them together used by 100 women for a year, every time, would still yield three pregnancies.

[machine_rat]

It seems to me that the issue here is not simply about sex (although sex itself is not exactly a simple topic, or this site would not exist). Whether or not to have sex is one issue. Whether you wish to pursue a relationship with this boy is quite another.

You have said yourself that you both acknowledge his busy schedule. When you pass the point of a platonic (friendship/non-romantic) relationship and enter the realm of romance, the emotional demands of the relationship climb exponentially. If you already find that there are time restraints on your friendship, consider how much more you would feel the strains when you are in love. Relationships take time and effort, and a great amount of work. They are never easy or straightforward. There are always complications, and deeper topics in conversation than you would ever get into with a friend.

He may not have the time to devote to developing a healthy relationship with you right now. So, if in fact the two of you decide to enter into a deeper form of relationship, please know that this carries a great risk of you feeling slighted in his busyness.

[2beloved]

Do you want him bad as a boyfriend or sexually? It sounds like this is your first love . Just don't let him know that you are that crazy of him because he will use it to his advantage even if he's 16. Be careful.

[KMB]

Yeah I'm not ready to have sex with him yet., even though I think about it a lot. I want him as a boyfriend, I have been thinking, I should respect him in all ways. I may have to wait for now.

I know it will be worth the wait.