Regaining an ex girlfriend

[Evil_Meat]

my girlfriend dumped me 3 days ago and i didnt handle it too well... I talked to her 2 days later(yesterday) and did the usual instinctual stupid thing which is telling her how much i miss her and i want her back. obviously it didnt work. I'm wondering if i now use the proper techniques to get her back is it still possible or did i completely ruin my chances because of what i did

[tommy_tucker]

im in the same situation as you buddy. (i got dumped on thursday 10th) why do you want to get back with her? is it because you are in love with her? if it is then there is nothing you can do to make her fall in love with you. if you want to try it think back to when you two first fell for each other and see if thats what you can do. you told her you miss her and that sound a bit weak tbh. why did she dump you??

but imo i think you should move on. she probly wont take you back so there will be more pain there than there is now. so drop her, get over her ass and go date some people. thats what im doing, ive got a date on saturday.



Is it me or are men becoming the new women?

[Evil_Meat]

she told me she broke up with me because of the fact that we're long distance, about an hour 45 min drive, and her job hours have changed and she struggles to find the time to do things she likes to do and to see me, and that were in different stages of our lives... im in school and shes already done school even though she lives with her parents and only makes decent wages. She knew all of this before but didnt care because she was so into me... but something changed so i dunno

[machine_rat]

Is it that you miss her or are you simply afraid of being alone?

Unless you can rectify the whole distance thing, then even if you do get back together, who's to say that the same problem won't come up again.

You're in school and shouldn't have much of a problem finding somebody new.

Not to make you feel any worse, but her dumping you may just have been a nice way of saying that she has already found somebody else. Someone who is only a couple minutes away.

[sera300]

No regaining; she said you do not share the same interests. You will not change her mind. You spoke w/her again & she politely said "no thanks"; therefore, take that as a NO.

[EvilEvilKitten]

Short answer: Sorry, but this relationship is OVER. Time to move on!

Long answer: You commited a terrible error when you called her up and spilled your guts. Do not do that ever again. The lady tried to save your pride but the real reason she dropped you was because she lost interest in you. This happens. People and their situations change over time. This is why marriage is as tough as it is. She most likely reviewed her life and decided to make changes. Each of us has a vision of the life we wish to lead. She did not see you in hers so she said goodbye. Please respect her enough to accept her decision with some grace. Let her go and move on.

[Evil_Meat]

Originally Posted by machine_rat

Is it that you miss her or are you simply afraid of being alone?

Unless you can rectify the whole distance thing, then even if you do get back together, who's to say that the same problem won't come up again.

You're in school and shouldn't have much of a problem finding somebody new.

Not to make you feel any worse, but her dumping you may just have been a nice way of saying that she has already found somebody else. Someone who is only a couple minutes away.

i actually know her pretty well and i really dont think she found someone else, she just doesent wanna date sum1 behind her in life and deal with the distance issue after the honeymoon stage ended.