Is she really interested in me? - very unsure

[GreatamericanChallenge]

So I met this girl at school through a friend, which seems to be the problem. My friend, we'll call him frank likes this girl. The girl "Susan" hangs out with both of us and on the side with me. The problem is when we are in public she is closer to frank but then she calls me at night to go out? When we watch movies and stuff she wants to cuddle and lay together, but when we walk she wont hold hands? Im not sure whats going on. She always talks about me to her friends and come to me for advice and generally likes my company more. However she seems to be more physical with frank?(like them used to hold hands and i saw them kiss once, but this was before I started being in the picture) Not sure on what to do? Is she interested in me or just my friendship? Its a mess and I really dont know whats going. Help please

[sera300]

I think you have to pick--Frank or Susan...both will not endure!

[FatalExceptionX]

i had the same predicament with this girl in highschool. she flirted with me AND another guy, she grabbed both of our nipples all the time, and all this other touchy feely crap. but she was never interested in either of us. i think she mightve been more interested in me, maybe she wanted me to show her the same attention she was giving me. i have no idea.

[Ducy]

I think she just wants attention. I too went through this. My best friend (female) used to flirt with me, come to me for advice, lay with me all that kinda stuff...but never wanted to go up another notch (kissing...official dates etc) she would also flirt with another guy, kiss him basically whatever we didnt do. call her on it...either shell stop, shell want to move forward or shell back off and not chill with u as much

[machine_rat]

I knew a girl similar to the one Ducy posted about.

She already had a boyfriend, who was also the father of her child, but there was this guy at school that she hung around with. To see the two of them together you'd think that THEY were a couple... pretty much doing everything except have sex. All in secret of course.

It could all be due to a variety of factors:
-Drama queen trying to incite jealousy.
-Naievete (naievety), unaware that her actions can be perceived as sexual.
-Doing whatever it takes to be the center of attention.
-She herself is trying figure out what she wants (test driving).

All of this probably stems from unresolved/unrecognized past family dynamic issues.

[EvilEvilKitten]

OMG!

Guys - she just having fun playing the field! Welcome to "sport-dating"!!!

JEEZ!

Lighten up here!

This is a test. This has only been a test. To pass this test, do NOT go crazy and "fall in love/lust"; do NOT dump her; do NOT give her "him or me" ultimatums; in fact do NOT even acknowledge the other guy's existence unless you're friends with him which you continue to be in spite of this test because she's not really all that serious about either of you. Actually she sounds like a delightful little playful kitten!

What you should do is to enjoy her as she wishes when she's around and in the same light-hearted manner that she's showing you. Date other women as well keeping those relationship light and fun too. Wait until a woman shows you she is SERIOUS, yes, she'll make it perfectly clear when she's being serious, and then you can go off the deep end - but not before.

Until then - just enjoy the dance!