She is really messing with my brain...

[FatalExceptionX]

I really dont get it. I started dating this girl this summer, ive known her for about 2 years now. She always came to see me every single day, every single day after we both got out of work, she would come pick me up or she would just chill at my house, because i didnt have a car at the time. We texted all day long during work and all that. But its changed now, the end of the summer came, and she went to college in florida, but were staying together, and i had to move to texas with my dad. Now that shes in college, i feel non existant. She does the WEIRDEST things and i just dont get it. Like just now, I had talked to her last night, and said i was going to call her tomorrow, which is today, like i always do. I usually call during lunch while im at work, and she knows this. I called twice and she did not answer, i left a voicemail and sent her a text and i still get no response. She ALWAYS has her phone on her. But yet, I go on facebook, and i can see that shes online, but her laptop is broken, so instinctively i know shes in her friends dorm. Meanwhile I add on another insecurity everytime this happens. I feel like a nobody to her. We went from communicating 95% of the day down to like 5%. I barely get to talk to her for 3 minutes a day. I feel like im in love with the wrong person

[tommy_tucker]

your in texas? and she is in florida? how far apart is that?? you are in a long distant relationship and insecure about it. i guess you could talk to her about your feelings the next time she picks up.



isnt it funny how you can see things that are happning to you when some one else posts it.

[FatalExceptionX]

I know I'm insecure, but its because she does all this weird crap. And when she says shes going to call me, its a 75% chance of happening. but thats not the part that bothers me, the part that bothers me is the fact that she wont say anything to me if she knows she cant call for whatever reason, she wont say anything until i ask. and that sends me the message, "i dont feel like talking to you right now"

[EvilEvilKitten]

OK here's the scoop - she's growing up. She's also meeting new people, learning new things, getting on with her life, and comtemplating her future.

You are the high school boyfriend. Usually a woman will trade-in her high school boyfriend for her college boyfriend. Usually a woman will end up marrying her college boyfriend.

Cold comfort, I know. But her silence is trying to tell you something.
She's trying to tell you she has lost interest in you and does not know how to tell you/doesn't know what to say. She does not want to hurt you but she knows that the truth will hurt. You do understand - consider if your positions were reversed.

My advice: say goodbye, relax, let her move on, and go see who else you can find closer to home.

[Ephemera]

I agree with EEK.

[Sirene]

Tactful as ever EvilKitten...
All the poor guy needed was some pointers in the right direction & to make up his own mind. Not for someone to tell him the harsh truth right out.

Maybe it's not true though.
Dude you need to talk to her next time you get to. Make sure she tells you all.

[machine_rat]

Did the two of you become serious once it was apparent that she was going away? Hopefully the summer wasn't just a one last hoorah for her.

[EvilEvilKitten]

Sirene - her message was obvious and he was NOT getting it. She is not messing with his brain she was just not being forthright in an effort to save his feelings. There is nothing to give 'pointers' about. It is over. If he pursues her further, he's labeling himself as a wimp. If he backs off, then he'll at least preserve his dignity.

[bluetide76]

I agree with sirene, even if it seems like she has moved to other things you still need to talk to her and find out. If things do end up where she doesnt share her feelings anymore then you need to accept that and let her move on. Be dignified about it as well, a proper split is much better then a "eh whatever" and leaving it to just diminish. While Evil could be right, she could be off as well, who knows better about what is going through her mind then her herself. Gl with whatever ends up.