New Relationship and backing off

[moonchild0704]

Been in a relationship for a month. Still in the game-playing stage I suppose - hate this stage. Should I tell him how much he means 2-me? Ask if we are exclusive? Request more time w/him (see him approx 4 times per week -- we live across the street from each other) We have great sex (3 date we consumated) We/I want it everytime I see him. HELP -- should I just cool it for a while and act aloof? Thx,

[davinci]

Thanks for replying to my thread btw...I guess you should just be honest but without going over the top. Tell him how you feel for him without forcing it upon him. It must be relatively serious as you are sleeping together, but dont try and force too many questions of commitment on him.

I think as a rule of thumb, you can judge more by a persons actions than you can any answers they might give you.

Best of luck, am in the same boat as you and it can be horrible!

Dan

[EvilEvilKitten]

Stop. Take a deep breath. Relax.

You are spending just enough time together - 4 times a week.

It is NONE OF YOUR BUSINESS is he is seeing or not seeing other women so DO NOT ASK if you two are exclusive. You should NOT be exclusive at this point anyway. It is too soon for that.

Do NOT act aloof. If you want to jump his bones, do so; if not that's ok too.
But DON'T tell him how much he means to you. It is too early for that as well.
Just be the same fun-loving girl you have been, relax, and see where this goes.

If after two years together you two remain the same, then you can tell him how you feel about him. Yes, two whole years, hun. Men, even beloved men, are accessories to your life - get on with yours and let him come along if he wishes to.

[moonchild0704]

Thank you for the latest reply. I believe you are correct. It's way to early too be asking such questions. I will just relax and enjoy the ride.