She's being distant with me - I need help

[tommy_tucker]

i need some one to tell me what is going on here. me and my gf have been together for 6 months now. we havent had sex for nearly 3 weeks (she has been on her period this past week). im feeling that she is being rather distant to me, she says that her body dosnt want sex atm. we hardly kiss any more (like only when we say good bye). when we are out with her friends she talks to her best friend more than me (it feels like she is blanking me) then acts like nothing has happened. i think im reading too much in to this because i havent had sex in a while but id like to hear what some of you think. i dont want to lose her because i really do love her but this is just getting to me now.

[sera300]

Step back and cool it off with her...see her response.

[tommy_tucker]

to give you the whole picture when we started going out we saw each other for almost the whole day, every day because it was the summer. i think because i dont see her every day i get paranoid and think she dosnt love me. i must admit that im still new to the whole dating game (ive had about 2 years worth of relationships and in 18).

thanks though i think i just need to stop being a little girl and start being a man.

[sera300]

BINGO! Let your insecurities go & she is to treat you the way you expect. And same in reverse. You are not her "doormat" you should be treated with respect, women can take men for granted and stepping back may wake her up...you are not there at her beckoning call!

[tommy_tucker]

ive called her and we are going to give each other a bit of space for a few days. she is on her period atm and she gets really emotional when she is on. i love her and the spark isnt there but i think this is because we havent been on a date in such a long time. what ive said to her is take some time to take a breath and we will take is back a step or to so we go back to dating each other.

[tommy_tucker]

does any one else have anything to add?

[Ducy]

Yea...I have felt this a few times...and like you said its insecurities...I think my girlfriend is amazing and one of the most attractive girls ever....and I use to fret if we weren't always good....i tend to forget that she chose me (a average person) over all these athletic people, and a few rich boys.

One important thing though, did you talk to her about it? did you tell her how you feel? If is very easy to take for granted that which you have so regularly. Me and my girlfriend were together every second over the summer...and a few times we just sort of took each other for granted.

The break is good...dont stress over sex and fooling around...enjoy the simple pleasures in life. holding hands, a hug, etc.

DONT just utterly ignore each other...maybe talk on the phone once in a while...it could be everyday for a few minutes...once in a while for an hour...if you feel an awkward silence approaching, tell her youll call her later....go live a little, hang out with friends...then maybe call her that night, or just let her know youll talk tomorrow cuz your going on an allnighter with some friends...

We go to different schools, (her hs and me college) so we do have a break in fact we see each other maybe 3 times a week...sometimes its just because we all need a hug somtimes, so we meet simply for a hug and a little ice cream or something. It really seems to help alot.

[2beloved]

I think its like you said because when you talk to someone everyday and all the time it cause them to get tired of you fast. I use to talk to my friend everyday I would always text him if it wasn't nothing but hello, and when he didn't reply right a way I got mad because in the beginning he would reply within 2 seconds, then one day I said maybe he's busy and then again he would think all I do is wait on him . It was like I had no life and I was desperate for him well I back away and he got worried so I receive the text first from him and it felt good because it let me know that he still cares and I let him text first it felt nice for a change. You just have to give the person their space and if they care they will get in touch.

[tommy_tucker]

i had though as much. since i met her i havent been doing anything really. i had a gap year when i wanted to join the army (but ive changed my mind) i worked but only on weekends and monday nights because they were the hours i worked when i was at college. during the day i used to go running but by 1pm i had nothing to do and because she was on holiday i would see her for about 10 hours a day. but now i am getting a full time job which means i will have something to do other than obcess (sp?) over her.