I need to choose between 2 girls.....

[orodel]

Right now I'm in a situation at college where I need to make up my mind on which of two girls. This has been on my mind 24/7 for atleast a week now and I dont know what to do.

girl #1: I've known her for awhile and have been friends with her for awhile. However, recently its obvious she really likes me. My friends have caught on and I have even heard her friends talk about it. Shes a fun pretty girl that I really like being around. I can actually see something happening long-term with her.

girl #2: I dont know what it is but there is something about this girl that puts a knot in my chest. Shes so beautiful and sweet but is probably the most shy person I have ever met. She spends a lot of her time studying/homework (which is the truth not just an excuse) so through the week I very rarely get to see her. I also get the feeling from her friends she also likes me... however I'm not really sure how much. Shes so hard to read and talk to sometimes because it appears shes so nervous.

I obviously have something for girl 2 that I cant explain but at the same time I dont know if it will workout in the longterm and I dont want to be hurt. To complicate things further both girls are kinda friends.

I really dont know what to do and was hopeing maybe some comments on this board would help me out. I feel I'm in a lose lose situation. If I go with girl 1 I would really like her and I can see things working out, but then I know I'll always wonder what could have been with girl #2. This has been on my mind so bad I had to vent/looking for some answers. Please any ideas, experiences, ect would be greatly appreciated.

[oedipussy]

You've been on here asking the same question for almost a year now... Make up your damn mind already. Yes, you do need to choose - so do it. What are you waiting for?

Figure out which girl you want the most and get on with it. Since you'll NEVER figure it out on your own, I'll help - you want girl #2. Now get off the internet and tell her how you feel...

[dancingdoc2]

Here we go again........ Let me get on my soapbox for dating and reiterate my case for this activity.

I agree with oedipussy, however, I believe a choice at this time is premature. Here's why:

1. Why choose at all, at least right now. The whole purpose for dating is to learn what humanity has to offer us so that we can learn about others and what we like and dislike in others so that when the time does come to settle down we will be in a better position to make the right choice.

2. This is another example of why dating more than one person at the same time without "commitment" is worthwhile. You stand to have more dates, more diversification, there is less drama, therefore, less stress, especially if there is a breakup from a committed relationship.

3. By continuing to date these two people you maintain an ongoing social life all the while learning more about each, yourself, and whether you want to date others. You require more information which is why you are unable to choose now. Time and continued involvement with both will give you the time to figure this out.

4. Until you are out of school, have a savings account, and a stable income, and have explored more of your independence and autonomy and the world, it is premature in my judgment to establish a committed relationship. You need to concentrate on your education. So, while you can date and socialize and develop friendships, and have some intimacy, your extra effort should be centered around learning more about people and what you ultimately want in a person.

[delilahduck]

I think girl two is the option you're looking for. Sure you don't see her often because she is studying or whatever, but if you were together this would obviously be different. They say shy girls are the ones to look out for too, so you may like her more than you think affter getting to know her. As you said you don't know for certain that she likes you, so find out. I mean ask her on a date, because even if she says no, you can still be friends.

[EvilEvilKitten]

What's with this "they say" crap? Dealing with 'shy' when you could be having fun is the PITS!

Date them both and deal with the heat - perhaps that will make a man out of you enough so you learn how to make up your mind for yourself!

High 5, oedi!

[Hotaro]

This is my honest advice. If one finds out about the other girl and freaks out, say "fine we're through." This way the ladies make the decision for you. Whoever finds out first loses. On the other hand if the girl finds out and does not freak out, you have a keeper and dump the other one. Then if you are explaining the situation to the other girl who you are dumping and she says she's fine with you dating other people, then you're made and can have a threesome if you play your cards right!

[THQMA5]

Wow ive got the same type of problem.
Im in college and there are two girls both i think like me, (but also both might not)
Any way i have no problem with asking out girls its just i have a problem when there two best friends, and if i ask one girl out which never liked me the other, which could of liked me wont, see my problem.

Now girl 1..........i persume likes me as she smiles around me and is nevours, she looks good and is a nice person when we get talking, but i only sit next to her in one lesson, but i feel something there.

Now girl 2....... this girl i fancied when i first looked at her, she is nice and i like her but she is a hard nut to crack, i cant understand her. when we talk its a good convo but we dont talk that much, but where in a few lessons together, she is good looking ect.


Now these two girls are the same in many ways, but ive adopted a Sit back and see how it rolls out but there enters my next problem, when i do this, girls that i like generaly get taken.
If you want any more information just write back
please help though.

[tommy_tucker]

1.make a list of both of their good points and bad points.
2. rip the list up
3. go with your heart