so offically single... how long is the rebound?

[noodle209]

simple question, i don't want to get dating or anything on the rebound, because one, i feel like I'm using that woman, note i said that because my last gf was still too young, and sh!t an older woman, is more mature than that. anyways I don't want to feel like I'm using anyone so how long does that "rebound" last?

[sera300]

Varies...no set answer.

[dancingdoc2]

There is nothing in the rule book I use that says a man or woman cannot date and/or develop friendships along the way. The key is not to establish any exclusive relationships. Figure six to nine months for a rebound before even considering becoming serious with anyone. As for exclusivity, that depends upon your age and your preparedness regarding when you are ready to settle down. I would not be exclusive with anybody you date until you are ready to settle down. Until you are, have fun making friends, doing what friends do so you have a social life, and as you date, you can then learn about all the women you mingle with in order to have a better idea of what Ms. Right should be. It is then that you can consider being serious with someone if the right person seems to have entered your life.

[noodle209]

yea good advice, but when i started dating my ex, i thought for should i knew what i was getting in, but since she broke up with me she showed her immaturity and the mentality of a highschooler still. even though she's going to a university. which i'm mad p!ssed about.

[sera300]

I believe much depends on the length of the relationship, the depth of love involved, the commitment, and issues which were present (individually and as a couple). Looking at what you both did right and wrong in retrospect provides time to reflect on how you wound up where you are and perhaps why.

Through knowing this is allows you to make a more informed "choice" regarding women. Spending time with other women as friends allows you to see what you like/dislike in an individual. Also, looking at it from the point; "What do I need from a partner" helps.

Date many, be exclusive with no one. Make many female friends for now. When the time is right you shall know.

I was engaged (we were involved for three years) and it ended last Oct. I am still not ready for a serious relationship with anyone. I dated many for a while but found for the time being I need to focus on other areas of my life. If "Mr. Right" knocked on my door? I'd probably accidentally slam the door on him. Knowing this I keep a distance.

When you know yourself well; then you will know what you need/want from another person.

[EvilEvilKitten]

It takes as long as it takes; but generally speaking, 2 years is the maximum for getting over a serious relationship.


For me: it takes about 15 minutes or until the next 'teddybear' shows himself. But if my hubby died - oh yeah, two years.