Sex When gf is mad???

[Lyon]

Simple question whats everyones take on sex, when my girlfriend is mad. Its not a massive argument but my gf is very stubborn (its one of the things I luv bout her). Anyway I'm hoping to see her tomorrow night and I just want to pleasure her, so shall I just take her and just do it even if she stays mad with me or even makes things worse. Will I get good points for trying. What you all think. Cheers.

[Ducy]

Ummm.....yeah dont count on it....I recently got through a three week dry spell....no sex, foreplay, not even make out, and my girlfriend was angry with her mom and people at school....wasnt even me, and i still lost out...if your girl is anything like mine i wouldnt expect it especially if she is mad at you.

[JustAGirl]

Is she mad at you? Then I suggest you work on figuring out what went wrong and fixing it, rather than contemplating getting laid.

[Yariome]

I agree with JustaGirl, figure it out, apologize, and make up for it. No better sex than make up sex.

[dancingdoc2]

...until she tells you exactly what (in)actions on your part affected her and you are certain you get it. It is one thing to just say "I'm sorry" and get about moving on, and, quite another to understand what the cause of her unhappiness has done to her. This works whether you were the cause or when something totally unrelated got her ire up. This this case you have more understanding to empathize and comfort her.

[sera300]

To add on to Docs thoughts...she is to open up first; if you caused her upset fine, just say "I am sorry I offended you" or "I am sorry you took offense at my action" . Just say I am sorry I hurt you...no long explanations, no redemption required since we forgive those we care for.

If it was someone else; after she tells you just say "I am sorry they (X) hurt you feelings"; however, her taking such actions out on you is not appropriate! And make it clear you are not the doormat for her bad moods caused by others. Rather you are there to listen and to be supportive.

[Yariome]

Sera is very right, and don't be abrasive! I've found this to be the worst approach to finding out what is on a girl's mind.

[EvilEvilKitten]

Heads up guys and gals - the silent treatment and/or little pouty princess "I'm mad at you" or "I'm mad at someone else but you're the one who is going to pay for it" act is OUT! People - you're not 2 years old any more. It is time to step-up.

If you get anything like that from your girlfriend/boyfriend - step back and refuse to see her/him until she/he behaves like an adult. Adults discuss things. Adults deal with issues using effective, caring, and non-confrontational language. They do NOT have tentrums and they do NOT have fights. Make-up sex is a fiction because you haven't deal with the issue - just covered it up with mutual weepy "I'm sorry." and both of you acting like little lap dogs. PFFFT.

As far as forcing her to have sex when she's angry with you - FORGET IT.
Think of what you just said which was "to hell with her and her feelings, I want to get my dick wet," Is that truly the kind of cad you want to be? How about we reverse the situation "to hell with you an your feelings, you're taking it up your rump, boy" - do you get the message, pumpkin? How close to rape do you want to get?

Sex should be happy, fun, and always FERVENTLY CONSENSUAL. If she's not leaping into your fervid arms with lascivious intent upon your person - you're not arousing her enough, buddy!

[Laika]

Once after kind of not-so-nice argument with my bf we finished it with sex. He tired to please me I suppose. Yet it felt so bad, I couldn't relax, couldn't enjoy. I thought I'd like such type of sex, but once I tried - no, please, never again.
And we were not even mad at each other, just disagreeing.

So... you get my point.