Sex without a condom - maybe its just me...need some help

[rlgates]

ok, I have two things that are on my mind atm..

first...guessing this one is the easest to help with first. Me and my girlfriend have been having a very good sex life. Granted, she has a higher drive then I do, and we have only been able to have sex and end up with both of us cumming at or with in a few sec of eachother. That was untill a few days ago.. Before that, we had used rubbers, mainly on my request. If them on, it will take me up to 40 mins to cum. Anyway..shes on the pill now and has been for some time, so we have been trying it with out the rubber. When we tryed that...I came in all of about 5 min! Is there anything I can do to slow myself down.

On that same note...that was my first time having sex with out a rubber, after her asking me for more then a hour to try it that way. I told her that I would try it but I was still not ok with it. She has been on the pill for some time and has never had anything **** up. We are both clean and everything. what should I do?

[cjb1981]

If you don't want to have sex without a condom, then put one on. It's said a lot around here that if a woman wants the guy that she's with to use a condom, then he uses one, because it is her body. Well, that goes both ways, you don't have to compromise your safety either. Do what you feel comfortable with. If you are going to have sex without a condom, then keep in mind what it was like the first time that you had sex or even masturbated for that matter. It's usually much more intense the first time because you don't really know what to expect. You'll probably get the hang of it.

[sera300]

You are used to being desensitized by using a condom; therefore, orgasm will be faster and easy for you without it. What can you do? Look at Brandyes "Squeeze techniques", start & stopping intercourse, always look at going for "round two", make her orgasm 100 times first before you do, and mainly ask "why does she want you to stop using them"???? And are you comfortable with this? Or are you allowing her to push you into it (not using a condom)?

Sounds as if she has much to learn! Always remember; It's your sperm!!!

[ItalStall]

If she forgets to take the pill, or she becomes pregnant anyway (because the Pill isn't perfect), who will you blame and who will pay the price?

It will be equally your fault as hers, because she is responsible for her egg and (as Sera says) you are responsible for your sperm.

Because the Pill is not infallible you should ideally be using 2 forms of contraception - with the Pill, you could use spermicide (if you and she would prefer not to use a condom).

[EvilEvilKitten]

The Pill is moe infallible than people are. The main purpose of the condom is NOT contraception but the preventing the transmission of STDs.

It is right and fit that both partners bear the burden of having responsible and safe sex.