What can I do to increase the amount of sex between Us??

[kon]

I was wondering if anyone had any suggestions with regards to how i can possibly get my gf and i having sex more often. Obviously i suppose i could just talk to her about it but i feel a bit uncomfortable as in how to bring it up with her etc. I think situations with having our own place etc doesnt really help the cause but i do feel that we could be at it more often. I know every guy would probably say this but i do feel its the case between us.

[sera300]

How about initiating sex more often? Do you have truly different libidos? This is a matter you do have to speak to her about to find out how she feels about it. Communication is key.

[kon]

Originally Posted by sera300

How about initiating sex more often? Do you have truly different libidos? This is a matter you do have to speak to her about to find out how she feels about it. Communication is key.

thanks for the response as always sera

i thought it would be a case of talking to her about it but i just dont know how i can bring it up as i dont want her to feel as though i am dissatisfied with the amount of sex we are having (althought this is the case). Yes i guess it is a case of different libidos. I am more sexually experienced than her (she has had 1 partner before me) and so i figured that she would be a lil uncomfortable with certain things and the fact she had been sexually active for over a year. I talked to her and made an effort to comfort her and this was the case when i hit her g-spot the last time we had sex which she had never experienced before and we had a good conversation about it after and i told her if she felt like she wanted to pee. She then looked at me with a startled look as how did i know that so i guess conversing has helped alot its just with this topic i feel its harder for me to bring it up?? i dont know maybe i am just over-exagerating a little.

[sera300]

I would not tell her you are dissatisfied with your sex life; I would let her know how much you enjoy the intimacy & love making; meanwhile, let her know you would enjoy a more frequent interaction with her! Perhaps she needs to become more comfortable with her sexuality and how you feel about her sexually?

I would tell her you enjoy her so much & what it means to you, then express you would like to do it more often. Ask her how she feels about this...open ended questions!

As always, you are welcome!

[EvilEvilKitten]

Communicate that intimacy is important to you and that you want to share as much of this with her as is possible! You have so much to give! There's so much you want to explore with her! ENTHUSIASM is the key to effective "please more sex" communications!

[Ducy]

I think you may have very well figured it out...the fact that your girlfriend is less experienced, may make her avoid sexual adventures because she feels unskilled or is afraid of not being good enough...I found that my girlfriend wasnt 100 percent comfy with sex because she didnt know what to do. although neither did i so we were both on the same page . talk to her about it.. compliment her on things that she does when your in bed and stuff because if shes confident in bed, shell feel more comfy and most likely want more.